(Closed) anyone bought a house first?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 32
2250 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We bought a house before getting engaged! We’d been together for 6 years, rented a house together for 8 months while looking for something to buy, and finally bought our first home last May. We got engaged in December, 7 months after the big purchace. Both of our names went on the mortgage… we knew we were going to end up married after 6 years of dating anyway, we had the money for a big down payment, so we went for it! Worked out perfectly 🙂

Post # 34
95 posts
Worker bee

I’ve got to disagree with the ‘only put one name on the mortgage’.  only if one person is solely contributing to house related things and will NEVER hold the ‘my house’ card against the other, could this work. And then at some point they get married and the house becomes joint? i just don’t see how this solves any problems. 

Post # 35
251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

Probably will be before our wedding, buying a house is a lot of work and ideally it’s something we want out the way before the wedding so we don’t have to worry about it. However Fiance is in the military so if all else fails we can live in married quarters

Post # 36
272 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

We bought our house before getting engaged too, he lived about 40 min away from work with his parents and wanted to be closer so we just up and decided to buy a house, its great, and only a 5 min commute to work! for both of us

Post # 37
6239 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House

We wanted to, and spent a lot of time looking, but eventually decided against it just for money saving purposes. We live in an expensive area, so if we can live at home, we will! We both live with my mom right now.

Post # 38
1105 posts
Bumble bee

We can’t buy yet but we are renting together.

Post # 39
419 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

we did!!! i can’t imagine trying to plan a wedding AND look for houses. 

i get overwhelmed easily so much so that we didn’t even have the reception to our destination wedding until 2 weeks later at home haha! plus moving and stuff sucks and as soon as we found a house we bought it realllly fast. actually a few days after we got engaged! 

Post # 40
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We did! We’ve been dating 6 years and a bought a house together last summer.  We planned on getting engaged before the end of the year but the house is a LOT more expensive than we imagined… lol   I’m thinking a ring in the next few months though….


We decided that a house was a smarter investment than renting an apartment so we just went for it 🙂

Post # 41
3586 posts
Sugar bee

I did. we live here together, but I bought it.

Post # 42
8440 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

We closed on our house a week after we got engaged, this summer.  I was never really a waiting bee though, so it wouldn’t have mattered if we weren’t getting married (I have no plans for having children), I just wanted a house.  We had already been living together for 4 years, so nothing really changed.  We’re getting married in April, and it’s actually been easier to save money in our house because our old apt rent was so inflated.

Post # 43
2980 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We bought a house 5 months before the proposal came, but at that point, we had a joint bank account set up and we knew the engagement was coming. He was waiting for my birthday to propose.

Post # 44
208 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

We just bought our house at 7 months until the wedding.  It was just the right timing for us.

Post # 45
1303 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

We waited to buy til we got married.  He moved into my rental about 4 months before we got engaged.  (I broke my “don’t live together til you’re at least engaged” rule for him!)

No way would I ever share a mortgage or a property deed with someone I wasn’t married to.  (Exception: A pure business transaction with no romantic feelings and no shared living quarters, and then a lot of legal paperwork would be required.)  

Post # 46
37 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think it depends on your current living situation. If you already live together than I would say go for it! It would be good to get that going now instead of trying to deal with a new house and a wedding or baby at the same time.

If you do not currently live together, I would say hold off.  I think it is a good idea to live with someone before you make a big comitment to them. When you live with someone you are totally immersed in who they are. You experience every habit and every mood swing. The first few months I lived with me Fiance I found out alot of stuff about him. It was all little stuff, but all infromation I felt I needed to know before comitting to him for the rest of my life. 

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