Post # 1
So, Fiance and I have been engaged a year now and I have dreaded the thought of all the wedding planning (it would have to be large, at least 150 people), so we’re going to elope! I’m super excited, this is what I’ve always wanted and the only reason we wouldn’t do it is because all our family and friends would be disappointed. Well, Fiance said he will marry me whenever I want, wherever I want, so we have decided to elope & everyone will have to forgive us afterwards 🙂 Anyway, we’re looking to take my best friend and her husband, and my FI’s best friend and his wife (though, we’re all friends) and have them go to Newport RI for an overnight. My plan is to charter a sail boat and have a quick and casual ceremony then enjoy the day out on the water with lunch and cocktails. That night the 6 of us would go to a nice dinner and then probably out and about. Fiance & I would pay for everything, including hotel rooms for our friends. My question is, have any of you chartered a boat for a ceremony (or anything esle)? Any hints, tips etc? I’ve never done such a thing so I don’t really know what to expect!
Post # 3
The only charter I’ve done was with friends who’d chartered and sailed in the area before, they handled most of the details… the only concern I can think of is an alternate weather plan?
ETA – also… awesome idea. 😀
Post # 4
I’ve chartered a boat with friends for a day sail. My parents have chartered boats when we were kids for week long trips. I think this idea is lovely. A friend of mine (avid former professional sailor) had the bachelor party on a sailboat and I’ve spoken with a couple that got married on a Maine Wind Jammer.
This may be obvious, but can anyone sail? Some places will require proof of experience, although others do not, so ask beforehand. Or do you intend to charter a boat with a paid captain?
Will the ceremony be on board the boat? If so, either you’ll have to have 1) one person sailing the boat during the ceremony, 2) drop anchor, or 3) sail into the wind (but be aware the luffing sails – sails flapping in the wind – will make it noisy) so the captain can participate somewhat, but s/he will still need to be aware of the boat.
Choose a simple dress suitable for a bit of climbing ladders/clambering about, and know that it can get colder out on the water, so if you can figure out a way to have layers in your dress, that’s best. Also, have a backup plan for bad weather (including rain, storm, or just plain cold).
Post # 5
@kay01: Thanks for the info! We would charter a boat with a captain & crew and they don’t require experience from us, though they seem willing to teach, so that might be fun as well.
For attire I was thinking a simple jersey dress, sandals and the some back-up clothes, sweater and pants (not very traditional).
The weather aspect does freak me out, I’ll start praying for a sunny day now 🙂
Post # 6
@nickels: Captain and crew makes allll the difference, so I’m glad you’re going that route! Much more stress-free that way. (No need to worry about getting charts, figuring out route, etc.)
Clothes: If you can, stay away from cotton. If it gets wet from spray, you’ll be cold all day. Bring extra water – you get thirsty out there. (Try try to limit the alcohol or caffeine for the same reason.) Sunscreen even if it looks cloudy! Don’t want to spend your honeymoon sunburnt. You can bring a camera, just keep it in a plastic bag just in case. (You can create a quasi dry bag by putting it in a plastic bag, twisting the top of the plastic a number of times, then taking the top part and reversing it back in on itself over the camera…then repeat with the twisting…) Remember “bathrooms” are inelegant affairs called the head.
Let me know if you want additional suggestions! As you can tell from my avatar, I like to sail! 🙂
Post # 7
We looked into chartering a boat as the venue. We found there were extra costs not included in the original estimate–a fuel fee, docking fee, and mandatory event permit (which you’d probably avoid given your plan involves just six people). Boats had different rules regarding alcohol and none allowed candles. Be sure to find all this out up front before signing the contract.
Boats are awesome!
Post # 8
@nickels: Make sure to check on local laws regarding getting married on the water. We looked into this a little, and there was an issue where we would have either had to get married at the courthouse ahead of time and had a “fake” ceremony on the boat, or have the ceremony at the dock before the boat sailed, as the wedding wouldn’t have been legal/official if we did it on open water. It would suck to get everything set up and realize that legally you can’t get married on the water.