- 5 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
I told my Fiance the other day that I think it would make sense to forgo a bridal party. I’m not sure if he was disappointed about this or not. I’ll probably have to ask him again. There’s a lot about traditional weddings that I dislike. I have asked not to participate in a lot of things at this point. I’m not 100% committed to this idea if it upsets him.
Both of us are uncomfortable ranking family and friends and nervous about the conflicts this will cause. I also hate the idea of asking anyone to shell out costs for our wedding and I know several people will have to take off work. I feel like I would be putting my friends and family out. My Fiance still hadn’t decided a few days ago who he’d be asking to stand up and our wedding is less than 4 months away.
My FI’s good friend works 60 hours a week, at least, and there’s no way he can just take a day or two off without a lot of notice. He also has a bunch of young kids. My sister doesn’t drive, lives far away and has made snotty comments about several things. Though we’re close, she’s about as selfish as they come. If she thinks something is going to inconvenience her, she’ll be a huge jerk about it. I love her, but I also know her and accept her for who she is.
My best friend lives even further away, has a small child, is facing huge financial hardships and trying for a second baby. My best friend also hates my sister (as most of my friends do). My FI’s brother is a problem in general, mostly for himself and my future in-laws. He is an ok person, but they are not close. However, his brother would likely martyr himself if he wasn’t asked to be the best man or stand up and I am pretty sure other members of his family would give him trouble about it. My FI’s other friend lives very far away and has a terminal illness that makes it very hard for him to plan ahead.
Is this sounding like a mess yet or what?
Anyone else choose not to have a bridal party? Did you feel it was a good decision or do you regret it? I’m a little worried that the stresses of the moment are coloring all my thoughts on our wedding. But I also suspect these people would have a much better time at our wedding as just guests.