Post # 31
If a man does not know whether he wants to marry me or not within six months I am outta there. I am not a waiter. I am doer and I have never been afraid to walk. I’m getting hitched to the man of my dreams in two months. We will have been together for nine months. (No, not pregnant! lol) I am not patient and I know my worth. I fall hard and I wanted someone who could be brave enough to do the same. I got it. Know what you want and DO NOT SETTLE.
Post # 32
I don’t know about anyone else. Everyone is different. How well can you really know someone after 1.5 to 2 years? Enough to know that you’ll be happy with them for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE? That’s a pretty big decision, and sometimes I wonder why it seems “normal” to make this kind of decision based on pure emotion.
I was with an ex for nearly 2 years before he developed a mental illness and became completely crazy. Dodged a bullet there.
My Fi and I have been together for a decade now and been through a ton of tough life events. Job losses, illness, accident, death of family and friends, and all the normal daily life stress about money and bills and cleaning the house etc. In that time we both grew and changed as people. Luckily we grew together and handled all the life stress well. That is how I knew for certain that he was “The One,” not because of how passionate I was for him, although that was a good start.
Post # 33
Yes, I have. Consisered it, I mean.
For the first year of my relationship, I had no clue whether or not my SO (now FI) wanted to get married. I had a hunch he did want to and wanted it to be with me, but I hadn’t heard it from the horse’s mouth. I felt tourtured because I was ready at 5 months. LOL, I was 27 at the time. I remember calling my mom at 9 months and telling her if he didnt propose by the year mark I would walk. I had been in 2 dead end relationships and wasted so many years of my 20’s before this one that I was really ready to settle down. Even as young as 27.
Well, when the year anniversary came and went without a proposal, I finally got the courage to ask what he was thinking, rather than having these delusions of grandeur and thinking he can read my mind. Once he opened up tp me (all I had to do was ask!) I learned pretty quickly we were on the same page and while he wasnt going to propose in the next few months, I felt comfort in knowing he would when he was ready to ask me.
And he did 10 months later 🙂 I am so glad my hormones (or whatever the heck that was) slowed down and I waited, because it was so worth waiting for.
Post # 34
I cannot believe some of the responses here. A year if waiting then you walk? Wow. That is absolutely crazy. Marriage is one of the biggest commitments a person will ever make and I don’t know if I could decide on that after a year. Not even 1.5 years. That’s only about 545 days. The average person spends more time on the toilet in their life than that (about three years). Like I said, crazy.
ETA: OP, if I wasn’t clear, don’t walk. Not yet. Give him a chance.