- 5 years ago
My SO was 9/10 of the way through a divorce when he and I started dating. I knew this when our friend set us up. He was unhappy, they went through marriage counseling, she didnt listen, he tried, he filed and left. That being said, his views on marriage got jaded for a bit. I remember when we were together for not even one month, we were grocery shopping, and his ex wife was texting him and bitching about money he supposedly didnt give her, but he was giving it to the lawyer because he didnt trust her. (She fucked their credit when they were married, so he was having the lawyer handle all the money stuff). We were looking for meat in the store and he stopped walking and said “I will never get married again, f**k this, blah blah” And I blocked the rest of what he said out, and got quiet. Realizing how this upset me, even though Im not commitment crazy and dont want to get married after 1 month( but everyone wants to know we have a future, right?) He apologized and told me he is not opposed to marriage but it will take a while.
As of April, its been 2 years for us. Im not saying I want to get married right now-trust me I dont. Im still in college and working a shitty job I could not afford it even if I wanted to. But in the back of my mind, I always wonder….WHEN?
I found this site looking for stuff for my friend, Im a BM in my friends wedding next July, and Im so exited for her, and I have too much fun looking at inspiration boards, reading about themes, thinking about my bridal party, etc. When he caught me on here posting a thread about bouquets for my friend, I FREAKED. I thought he was going to freak, thinking Im wedding crazy right now
I know my SO loves me; he tells me every chance he gets. He tells me how beautiful [he thinks] I am, he thanks me for doing the laundry and cooking every night, doing the dishes afterward( we live together), our sex life is great, and when family stuff hit the fan last year, he was there for me more than anyone I know was, and we NEVER argue for more than a minute.Where is there a reason not to stay together?
I dont mind waiting. But I cant help thinking that Ill be waiting, forever? Has anyone else dated a divorced person and felt they had jaded views on marriage? IT tends to get in the back of my mind too often :/
If you got this far thanks for reading 🙂 I knwo this got long