Anyone dating or married to an Iranian here?

posted 9 months ago in Relationships
Post # 31
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: City, State

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elfzzz :  mrsziggy :  Dear Bee, I was actually thinking the opposite when I was asking about Iranian culture. They are rather traditional and their men usually are the main probiders in the family, and don’t have a problem wity that. Which is why I was surprised that he does.

Bee, it sounds like you made a lot of assumptions about this particular man because of what you think members of his culture are like.  This is an extremely problematic way of treating individual people.  If you had ASKED him about his ideas about money and providing were, you probably wouldn’t be in this situation now.

Post # 33
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Honey bee

He doesn’t want to be a traditional Iranian male so he decided to be a douchnozzle instead? OP this is bad. I’d be very concerned and I’d look for another place to live. I certainly wouldn’t want to find myself engaged to him.

Post # 34
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Well his mum sounds lovely, but he sounds like a stringy arse, Iranian or not. Horrid man. 

 

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elfzzz :  

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2019

Been with my Iranian spouse for 9 years now.  We combine our income.  We discuss purchases and household bills and budget around it.  If either of us want a larger priced item we discuss it but we are both always aware of what we have and what we can spend and are both on the same page on exspenses. 

My spouse isn’t very traditional. He has been in Canada for years as well.  Just because someone is a certain nationality doesn’t make them a better provider.   In all honesty though your guy sounds like a douche bag.  Wether he was hurt financially before or not he has to see what his financial choices are doing to YOU. 

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