Post # 31
elfzzz : mrsziggy :
Dear Bee, I was actually thinking the opposite when I was asking about Iranian culture. They are rather traditional and their men usually are the main probiders in the family, and don’t have a problem wity that. Which is why I was surprised that he does.
Bee, it sounds like you made a lot of assumptions about this particular man because of what you think members of his culture are like. This is an extremely problematic way of treating individual people. If you had ASKED him about his ideas about money and providing were, you probably wouldn’t be in this situation now.
Post # 32
That’s the thing, when we moved in he told me loud and clear that since I make less I can contribute what I’m comfortable with, not necessarily a half, but what I can, and he’ll take care of the rest. We’ve been living this way for a year now, and he suddenly declares that he has a problem with that.
Post # 33
He doesn’t want to be a traditional Iranian male so he decided to be a douchnozzle instead? OP this is bad. I’d be very concerned and I’d look for another place to live. I certainly wouldn’t want to find myself engaged to him.
Post # 34
Well his mum sounds lovely, but he sounds like a stringy arse, Iranian or not. Horrid man.
Post # 35
Been with my Iranian spouse for 9 years now. We combine our income. We discuss purchases and household bills and budget around it. If either of us want a larger priced item we discuss it but we are both always aware of what we have and what we can spend and are both on the same page on exspenses.
My spouse isn’t very traditional. He has been in Canada for years as well. Just because someone is a certain nationality doesn’t make them a better provider. In all honesty though your guy sounds like a douche bag. Wether he was hurt financially before or not he has to see what his financial choices are doing to YOU.