(Closed) Anyone decide no engagement photos with your wedding photographer? Regrets?

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Post # 16
305 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We are not doing engagement photos. But there’s a lot of reasons for that. 1) We don’t live in the same Country so it’s a big expense to go there just for photos 2) My Fiance hates photos 3) It’s another expense for an already expensive occasion. 

Post # 17
41 posts
  • Wedding: June 2016

I skipped out on the engagement photos because of my budget and I really wish i hadnt 🙁 We had some professional photos we took when we actually got engaged that we used for our save the dates so that was the reasoning. But I really wish we had practiced our poses and gotten a sense to see how we look on film before the big day. There are definitely a lot of shots I wish I got or ways I wish I knew to hold my face that I only learned after getting all my pictures back.

Post # 18
5016 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

I’m seriously considering forgoing engagement photos.  They would be nice to have but I can’t stomach the price right now.  We do have a friend who does photography for a hobby so its possible that I can ask him.

Post # 19
3835 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

We’re skipping them. My Fiance and I don’t really like taking photos. In fact I think there’s exactly one photo in existence of us together. We don’t intend on doing a ton of posed photos on our wedding day anyway so for us it’s not essential.

Post # 20
2668 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

We didn’t do engagement photos – they’re not really a common thing where I’m from. We haven’t worked with our photographer before, but we really like his work and all our dealings with him to this date have been very positive so we’re not worried about how things will go on the day.

Post # 21
4058 posts
Honey bee

We didn’t do engagement photos, and I don’t miss them at all. I never really understood the point since we have so many pictures of ourselves from the wedding. There are only so many pictures of us as a couple I can stomach having around the house, and I’d rather use that small amount of photo space for our wedding pics.

Post # 22
207 posts
Helper bee

We didn’t do them and there are no regrets. I didn’t see the point since we wouldn’t use them for anything.

Post # 23
10322 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We DIY’d our engagement photos and only used our photographer for the wedding. No regrets. I love our wedding pictures 

Post # 24
804 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Southern Plantation House

We only had a 4 month engagement & since we weren’t going to be sending out save the dates, we felt that the added cost of engagement photos was unnecessary. However, I do wish that we had gotten to bond with our photographer more before the day of, which is usually done through engagement pictures. 

Post # 25
119 posts
Blushing bee

Engagement photos seem to be a big thing in the US, I’m in the UK and didn’t even know about them until I started looking into wedding photography. We are deliberately looking for photographers WITHOUT engagement shoots, or asking them to take it off of their packages. Personally I find the photos cringey, neither of us like having our photograph taken, I would hate to use photos of ourselves on invites or save the dates, and I know that we would never look at the photographs ever again.


You could just get a friend with a decent camera to take photos of you in a location you like. Personally I’d save the money. And as for getting to know the photographer we will be meeting up and having a consultation, looking through their work etc and getting to know them that way 

Post # 26
1582 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

We didn’t do e-pics. There were times during the engagement when I got wistful and wished we’d have done them. Planning is so much work, I wanted something fun during that part of the process! And it would have been nice to put on our website or save the dates. But that passed basically as soon as the STDs were sent out and by the wedding I was just glad we’d saved the money. All I can think now is how many wedding pics she took and how hard I expect it will be to narrow those down — I don’t know what I’d do with even more pics of us. So ultimately, just a bit of wist in passing and otherwise glad we skipped it. Go with the awesome photog you love and I bet your wedding pics will be so awesome you won’t miss e-pics at all!

Post # 27
2617 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

We did them because they were included in our package, but I never would have paid extra to have them done.  In hindsight, I am really happy we did them because our photographer knew us a little better for the wedding photos, and I think that helped make them so great.  It was much easier to be relaxed in the pictures having known the photographer.  Plus, he knew about our quirks. (DH blinks a ton, so he knew to take extra pictures)

Post # 28
4269 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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raspberrybidet :  DH and I did not have an engagement shoot and I have zero regrets. We had one in our package, but it just never came to be. For a period of time, I was desperately trying to lose weight and was never really happy with the way I looked, so I kept pushing it back, pushing it back, pushing it back. Eventually, it was one month before the wedding and I just didn’t have the time or mind set to have an engagement shoot. Also, we did not want, nor do, the typical save the dates that features pictures of us, as we had a custom portrait sketched instead, so there was never a need or push for them done. Our photographer was really great and let us use it after the wedding. We resigned a contract for her to use our remaining photoshoots (three total) for when we have children (maternity shots, birth shots, and a newborn shoot). 

I will say this, though: Make sure, if you have a specific style in mind, that you share that with your photographer prior. Make sure you give her a shot list, tons of examples, and any other information she will need. Lots of people say that the primary use of an engagement shoot is so that your photographer gets to know you better and you feel more relaxed during the wedding shots. I was very comfortable with my photographer from the jump, so I think this is why I feel I didn’t need them. I will say that it isn’t necessary and I know many people who opt out of them. 

Post # 29
4885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We did not use our wedding photographer for our engagement photos. This was mainly cos we used my SIL’s husband’s cousin to do them the same day that she was already doing our nephew’s 1-year old photos… so it was a combined session. She had done DH’s family photos the prior spring, and her work was good.

The pics were OK, and I mainly wanted them to use for our photo album guest book… so we used some of those and then some from that family session.

A part of me wishes we would have done some with our wedding photographer, just to meet her before the wedding (although had met her since she did a friends wedding that I was in, so we chatted there… and she knows my mom well).

But, it was OK. We only spent $60 on these photos instead of around $150 for the other ones and that was fine.

Post # 30
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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raspberrybidet :   I understand why people do engagement photos, and maybe it would have help us be more comfortable with our photographer. But, we did not do engagment photos and we don’t regret it at all. My husband is a pretty camera shy so I just couldn’t ask him to go through formal photos twice. I don’t think it’s something that you have to do-I would rather just have more time with the photographer on our wedding day.

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