(Closed) Anyone do a destination wedding followed by a local reception?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
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6257 posts
Bee Keeper

We kind of had this situation – my family is from the east coast, his from the west adn we live in the southwest.  We only invited our closest friends and family and of the 60something invited, 35 came, so it was very small.  My parents want to have a party for us sometime in the east, so they can show him, that is us, off.  It would be for people who couldn’t make it for various reasons, plus family friends who weren’t invited to the ceremony due to various constraints and the fact that I didn’t want to look gift grabby or demand people spend 500+ apiece to attend my wedding.  However, I very much doubt they will call it a reception and it will be anywhere from 6 months to a year after our wedding occurred.

Doing the reception as a wedding is out of line, I’m sorry.  That would drive me crazy, as it appears to be doing to you, and it probably looks really bad from an outside perspective.  I would totally side-eye anyone who did that.  If you haven’t planned it already, I would tell him it’s inappropriate and have nothing at all to do with the planning the second time around.  A local reception is okay, a party is awesome, but a full blown wedding is wrong.  You had that already and he needs to understand that.

If you do go through with it, there is no rule that you have to go bar hopping after.  Head back to your home/hotel and relax – he can hang out without you.

Hope your family illnesses and such have improved and all goes well for you!

Post # 3
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514 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

You sound like my fiance! We are having a private ceremony (essentially eloping except everyone knows) in Mexico in February. He would be perfectly happy to leave it at that, but my family is giving us money to have a small reception so they can celebrate with us. I have started to plan it and he is kicking and screaming about the whole thing. Your post is honestly making me realize that this whole thing is probably making him miserable and that I need to hit the brakes to make sure it doesn’t grow to be more than a small reception/party. Have you told your husband how “sick and disinterested” you are? Maybe he just needs a reality check that there’s no need to do the whole shebang again and maybe a smaller dinner party or backyard BBQ would be more appropriate for the guests that didn’t go to your wedding?

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