(Closed) Anyone do a hand fasting ceremony?

posted 6 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
2359 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

We did a hand fasting without tying our hands… we left that part out.  haha we just had him read the reading.  We aren’t religous but we realy liked the reading that went with it and it could apply to anyone. 

Post # 6
7311 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

Our cords were made with colors we both chose based on their meaning. Mr. LK chose black, silver, red, and white, while I chose pink, brown, and gold. (meanings of colors here: http://www.rosehavendesigns.com/handfasting.html )

The cords (still tied) are kept in a memento box along with all of our wedding cards, the love letters we wrote to each other on our wedding day, and a bottle of wine. Each year on our anniversary (tomorrow!!!) we will give each other new love letters to be read and added to the box. If we ever hit a really rough patch, we will open the box, share the bottle of wine, re-read all of our old love letters and well wishes from friends and family, and remember why we hose to be together in the first place. And if we have no need for it, we’ll re-open the box and drink the wine every 5 years as a celebration of where we’ve been and where we will go in the future, and then put in a new bottle of wine.

EDIT: I just need to come back to this for a second. If you are going to do this, please don’t think of it as a photo op. It’s a very real and meaningful ceremony for many people. If you want to do some sort of vow renewal and have your photographer capture that moment, that’s one thing. But if you just want to have someone throw some cords on your hand and have pretty pictures, that’s another thing. It’s like signing the ketubah or jumping the broom, etc.- it has significance to those who do it. So if it’s really just about the pretty pictures, I ask that you reconsider so as not to disrespect the meaning and value that many brides and grooms assign to their handfasting.

Post # 7
11233 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

We’re doing one! We liked the symbolism of it a lot. I’m going to be making our cords eventually (probably this winter), and then we’ll keep them in a shadow box.

The topic ‘Anyone do a hand fasting ceremony?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors