(Closed) Anyone do the courtship route rather than traditional dating?

posted 6 years ago in Christian
  • poll: Did you do courtship or traditional dating?
    Courtship : (25 votes)
    9 %
    Traditional dating : (122 votes)
    41 %
    Traditional dating but wish I had been in courtship : (14 votes)
    5 %
    What is courtship? : (133 votes)
    45 %
  • Post # 4
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    What is the difference in traditional dating vs. courtship?  I’m out of the loop here 🙂

    ETA: I see there is a poll option for me :3

    Post # 5
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2016

    I voted ” what is courtship?”. Really I wanna know, and i cant google right now. 🙂

    Post # 6
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    4352 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Please explain what you mean by courtship.

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    from my understanding, dating is more casual. you go out with a person, but you’re not necessarily looking for anything serious. you’re just having fun and seeing where it goes.

    in a courtship there’s no wasting time or messing around. your intentions with that person are to eventually get married.

    i’m sure there’s more to it than that, but i think that’s the general idea.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @imalittlebirdie:  I can’t Google atm, either, and now I’m dyin’ to know 😛

    Post # 10
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I don’t have the strongest religious background but I did read your whole post. I’m still confused about what the difference is between a courtship and dating. Is it that you involve your church and parents? How long do you guard your emotions for? Can you explain it in plain English without quoting scripture?

    ETA: Also all of the bullet points refer to the young man preparing for marriage. Are they the same for the young woman?

    Post # 12
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @MrsFuzzyFace:  Oh ok. So basically you start as friends and before you really get too attached you make sure that you would be a good fit for marraige. That makes sense.

    Post # 13
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @MrsFuzzyFace:  Is there generally more of a platonic feeling between the two people before the courtship begins, during the time when they are only acquainted with each other?  Is it sort of like an arranged marriage in that compatibilty and the god stuff sort of trumps love and romantic feelings, but it is hoped that those feeings develop later? 

    The only familiarity I have with this concept is that my brother in law and his wife are seriously christian people and want their daughter to one day meet her husband through this process.  I don’t really know what it all means though. 

    Post # 15
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I didn’t do this and I wouldn’t. But to each their own. If a couple wants this for themselves and they are happy and comfortable with it then that is fine. My only issue with it is all the parent-honoring stuff that kind of makes it seem like this is something that a lot of parents might force on their children under penalty of hell or something. If a person does not want to do courtship and their parents try to push it on them, I’d have a massively huge problem with that. But for anyone who wants it for themselves– whatever works for you!

    Post # 16
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    @CorgiTales:  Same here.

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