- Future Couture
- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2012
We’re from Mass also and we’re either doing beer and wine during cocktail hour and then a cash bar or maybe just 2 bottles of wine on each table. We’re going to see what fits our budget best. I’d love to throw in a signature drink with the free beer and wine. We’re only inviting about 90 people.
We’re doing a good selection of beer and wine, but cash for liquor. I thought it was a fair compromise.
I think it’s probably area-dependent…We got married in Fort Lauderdale and I would never have even considered it (and I’m from New Orleans and I wouldn’t have considered it there either), but DH’s parents are from a VERY small rural area in upstate NY and Mother-In-Law had asked me if I was doing a cash bar…When I recoiled at the question, she said she had been to quite a few there and thought nothing of it.
With that being said, my brother and SIL do not drink, and their wedding was dry/no alcohol, and I will say that I ABSOLUTELY would have preferred a cash bar as opposed to NOTHING! I would have gladly bought a glass of wine or something! So maybe if the couple doesn’t drink, then I would say, definitely just do a cash bar…
We are having an open bar but only because our parents offered to pay for it. There is nothing wrong with a Cash bar. You have to do what you can afford and I have never been to a wedding where I heard anybody complain about the cash bar. I have been to cash bar weddings, open bars, and then some where its open until a certain time then it turns into cash and nobody ever complained!
We are doing an open bar. I am from NJ and I have never been to a wedding that was not an open bar or at least free beer and wine. Also, we can afford it so it is not a big deal for us. I think it is definitely a regional thing, but I know everyone coming from NJ/NY expects it.
If it is what you have to do, I would not worry about what people think or say! You shouldn’t go into debt for one day! I would just let people know by word of mouth ahead of time because a lot of times people don’t bring cash to a wedding!
We’re doing free beer, wine, and soda/tea but no hard alcohol at all.
Another couple from Mass here. We’re also doing a cash bar. It’s just too darn expensive in Massachusetts for an open bar IMO. Plus it’s not like people actually expect an open bar. I agree with previous Mass posters that cash bars are the norm in these parts.
we were planning on a payed coctail hour then it was going to go to a cash bar BUT because funds are running very tight then we are doing an all cash bar unless someone wants to step up and put money towards paying for it. buying a house and paying a wedding at the same time is super stressful!
I also don’t agree when people say if you can’t have an open bar, you shouldn’t offer liquor at all. I know my family and friends, and they would MUCH rather pay for beer and drinks than have nothing at all!
We are doing a cash bar. I am in the same boat as a PP and half of our guests won’t be drinking so it didn’t make sense to offer all you can drink. I am offering beer and wine to guests for free but knowing how my wedding party and friends drink, I am sure we are going to run out. I may sound cheap, but I’m not paying for everyone to just drink at their leisure, I am paying for them to come and help my new husband and I celebrate our union.
It’s all but unheard of in the UK to have an open bar (and would probably double the cost of most weddings if you did have one), but we’re providing half a bottle of sparkling wine and half a bottle of still wine per adult during the day and another glass of sparkling wine for every adult in the evening plus non-alcoholic alternatives and then the bar is very reasonably priced.
In response to the suggestion that it’s like asking people to pay for drinks when you invite them over to dinner… not really. If I’m throwing a dinner party, I will generally ask friends to bring wine with them (although I’ll provide champagne and a dessert wine). I would consider it rude for a guest to show up for a formal dinner party without some sort of contribution (wine, chocolates or similar). Those who have done it in the past have not been invited back (and one was barred from the house but that was for other reasons).
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