Post # 1
I wish I could just magically have a dress without having to try on any dresses lol. Although I do think its fun to try on dresses, I find the entire experience completely awkward. I hate standing there with the dress on, listening to everyone else chirp in what’s good/bad about it. And I especially hate that the salespeople hang out, waiting for your opinion. I KNOW it’s they’re job to do that and I know it’s not like they will be hurt if I tell them I hate the dress but I still find that completely awkward.
Also, I’m a very ridiculously self-conscious kinda gal so I hate playing “dress up.” I am not overweight by any means, but I have been in the past and the mentality has stuck with me. I’m not comfortable with my body and seeing myself in those dresses doesn’t make me feel any better about myself lol. It’s not that they look bad, but they don’t look like they do on the models. I’ve got myself curves and some child bearing hips (thanks, daughter 😛 lol). My fiance loves my curves (or so he says) but I just can’t get over the fact that I dont have that dream body I’ve been wanting all my life. So, maybe, I’m not dreading shopping because I hate the idea of having to let down the salespeople/my friends but I just am soo self-conscious that I can’t even enjoy this one huge part of the wedding planning process.
Am I crazy or is there anyone else like this?
Post # 3
I dreaded it b/c I thought there were going to be too many opinions. I brought my mom, mil, and really good family friend, and after I invited them I had that “what was I thinking?!” moment. I think I just watched too much say yes to the dress beforehand. It went fine though, they were all really positive and everyone agreed with eachother, so there wasn’t any issues. And I only had to try 3 dresses on to find my one!
Post # 4
I dreaded going to get mine too! My main reason though was because I have been having issues with my mom related to wedding stuff and all the dresses I liked she hated. Therefore, I thought it would be hell. It went pretty smooth but no one would say anything. Having someone speak up and say they like or hate the dress feels better then people just looking at you. Plus I am not one of those girls that ever got the let me cry because this is the dress feeling. I love my dress but I knew that I would NEVER cry over a dress.
I am sure you will be beautiful and it is over fast so don’t worry too much.
Post # 5
I was very nervous about dress shopping as well. Mostly cause I am very modest/shy around people i don’t know, both in conversation and the whole being in your undies in front of a stranger. So the thought of having to voice my opinion to the sales ladies and dress and undress in front of them was scary. ( I hate the sales people that never leave you alone for a second to think, they annoy me and i get very flustered and upset, I also know this is their job but they should be able to get a vibe from you when you need a minute alone.)I was also nervous because I am plus size 18/20 and most places the samples are like a 12. I have to say my experience was really good. I went to 5 places this week and only one made me feel uncomfortable, i should have listened to all the negative reviews on line about that place. They run the salon like Klienfelds, they try and listen to what you like and then pick it out, I was not allowed to go look at the dresses for myself. They were no Kleinfelds. But every where else i was able to go thru the dresses by myself and pick out the ones I wanted to try on without a sales person on my heels. And then they would ask if I wanted them to go thru them again with me. The women were all very helpfull, and really listened. They had me in everyhting from a size 10 to a size 22. I still felt really bad saying i did not like a dress, so my tactic was to pick one specific thing out on the dress and say it’s pretty but, i don’t like…..whatever. Or I just simply said nope this isn’t the one. And they all were really nice and didn’t try and pry why. And I also went to Target the night before and got something similar to spanx, but way easier to get on and off. That really helped with getting undressed infront of them, because it covered like a bathing suit and went all the way up under my bra strap. A great investment for $15. The first shop I went to I felt really awkward and even when trying on the first few dresses it was weird. But I went with it and actually had a good time. I took my mom and one sister which helped cause they know me and know not to comment too much on the way things look cause it makes me really uncomfortable. (I did have to remind them a few times.) And i actually found the one! It was from the first store we went to and was probably like the 5th dress I tried on. My mom was crying when I turned around, I did not think it was the one till later. I kept comparing every other dress to that one, so we went back and i put it back on and that was it 🙂
Post # 6
I was excited, went to David’s Bridal and then dreaded going anywhere else! I felt so fat in the David’s Bridal dresses and I’m not fat… I wear a street size 8. None of the dresses flattered my figure and it wasn’t a magical experience by any means. They put you in that horrible bra-thing and slip, so it adds bulk… not a good experience! I was so afraid to try on dresses after that because I didn’t want to feel fat and I didn’t want to have another mediocre experience. I ended up making an appointment at a bridal salon that sells Paloma Blanca and Mikaella gowns and the experience was a million times better! They only schedule 1 appointment per hour, so you’re by yourself with your family/friends and I felt that the salesperson had so much more experience… she put me in gowns that flattered my figure. I tried on all the gowns that I wanted and most of them, if not all, were flattering. It was awkward standing naked (well in just panties) in front of her everytime I had to put on another dress, but she was really professional. I found a dress that I did indeed fall in love with, but I’m going to keep looking because I’ve only been to the 2 places. But, don’t dread it… my advice, though… you get what you pay for. If you don’t want to feel fat and/or ugly, find a designer that you love and just bite the bullet and try on those dresses! If it is David’s Bridal… embrace those lower prices!! 🙂
Post # 7
I really dreaded it, and tried to order one online, but my sisters wouldn’t let me.
I ended up not hating it at all (I won’t go so far as to say I loved it)
I went to DB and 2 small stores, and had good experiences at DB and one of the boutiques (not so much at the second boutique).
For me, and maybe for you, the key was being VERY selective about who I went with. I was shocked at how many people wanted to go with me, and being a private, nongirly person with body image issues, the idea of trying on dresses in front of a crowd was horrifying. I have a good friend who went with me once, and then my sister/MOH went with me a couple of times. Just one person. I promise I would have hated it had I had an entourage with me…that’s just not my personality.
Good luck, and I hope you are albe to enjoy the process!
Post # 8
My cousin made my appointments for me and I was pretty uncomfortable at first, especially since I didnt know what I wanted. As it turns out, I ended liking what I didnt think would even look good on me.
The lady at the first store I went to helped me put on the dresses and I wasnt sure if I liked it b/c I am very self concious. I’m not overweight or anything like that, but just very concious.. even to the point that I dont even like my FH giving me a back massage most of the time. weird right? But after going to different shops and trying on dresses without help, I find that I want the ladies there to help me “dive” into the dresses I want to try on. Also, I only brought one or two people with me. I didnt even bring my mom..as much as I wanted to, I knew her style an mine are different and I just wanted two close friends who knew me to give me their honest opinions.
Good luck with the dress hunt; you never know and may end up liking it
Post # 9
@Nola: I really dont think I am even going to take my Mom dress shopping with me. She is such a cheap person and, even though I will be paying for the dress myself, she will right away judge the dress by the price tag as opposed to how good or bad it looks on me. If I found my dream dress and it was like $1000 (Im thinking my budget for tthe dress is roughly $1300), even if it was gorgeous on me and flattered me in all the right place, she’d find something wrong with it (even if nothing like that exists) just so I wouldn’t get the expensive dress. She’s delusional. And because I’m having vintage themed wedding, she’s been trying to find vintage dresses for me to buy 2nd hand but I’m not into that at all.
Post # 10
Do the obligatory “entourage” shopping trip. Think of it as exploratory, not an obligation to buy. visit several shops. Once you have a better idea of what you want, go back by yourself or with one or two trusted people to make a final decision. You will also know which shops/sales people you liked and trusted. If you can go on a weekday, you might be more comfortable because you’ll be the only one in the shop. Or you might want to go when it’s more crowded so you get less attention:) Don’t be afraid to tell the salesperson that something “isn’t you” or that you need a little privacy. I went to 5 shops and had very good experiences at all of them. good luck!
Post # 11
I didn’t dread it at first (I was really excited) but the more times I’ve gone the more I do dread it, because i keep feeling so underwhelmed. All the dresses were either too poofy or too plain or too sparkly or too expensive or looked cheap… I just really didn’t see much that impressed me.
I have thus far only tried on one dress that really made me feel great, and they didn’t let me get any pictures, and when I went back with other people to try it on again, they had sold the sample! And, of course, it was the only sample that existed in the whole state of Indiana (I’m not kidding. Only 2 salons in Indiana carry Maggie Sottero, and neither have that gown currently).
So I’m currently planning a trip for next month to drive 5 hours to visit a friend and go dress shopping at a huge store in Ohio with her, because they have the dress there and let you take pictures.
A whole lot of work for a “maybe” dress, if you ask me, but it’s the closest thing I have to cling to right now!
Post # 12
I am dreading it… I am excited about looking at wedding dresses, but dread the try on…
I am a street size 16
Post # 13
@tinylittlebird: I feel your pain! 🙁 I really hope your 5 hour drive pays off… good luck to everyone on finding the dress!!! It will happen… I think we all just need to be positive! And, you know… I don’t think it matters what size you are because if you ever look at wedding photos, all brides look beautiful… if you don’t feel beautiful, then you haven’t found the dress yet because there are tons of dresses for all shapes and sizes.