(Closed) Anyone else a college Bee? *VENT*

posted 6 years ago in College
Post # 2
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gijanedoe:  Nearly two years ago I was pregnant and graduating college.  And I’m amazed I did it all.  I would take a step back on the wedding and focus on school.  Your wedding will be waiting, you failing out of college will not.

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper

-hug- it’s hard. It’s stressful. Sometimes I honestly wonder why I torture myself if I won’t be unsuccessful in the long run. It’s normal to have self doubt. It sounds like you were in a much worse place. I wish I could give an answer. I was laid from my job a month ago and cannot get new employment with my school schedule. All I know is that is can get better. It will be easier. Push past the crap assignments and tests and there will be a better paying job in the end. Sometimes it is hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You can do it. It will be worth it! 

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Sugar bee

I can totally empathise with you… I have just started my post graduate degree. I am enrolled in 4 units both semesters this year, and all throughout my undergraduate I only ever did 3 units a semester, but I can’t delay my graduating any longer, I’m getting old lol.

On top of that I have Bipolar Disorer which means I have to TRY to keep my stress levels low, which as you know, IS NEAR IMPOSSIBLE with college/university. I have other major health issues on top of that, and I wonder why I feel like my brain is scrambled eggs most days!!! Due to health issues I can’t work at all as well as studying… I am still ‘waiting’ but almost actively planning engagement party and wedding due to our family circumstances (heaps of relatives live a 5 hour flight away from us…) so am just thinking and planning logistics already… Ugh, why is adult life so hard? lol

I also find myself distracted and unmotivated when SO is home… A lot of the time the only time I get my ass into gear and DO some work is when he’s at work or late at night when he’s asleep. I hardly ever start work until afternoon because my brain is in a huge fog up until around that time.

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Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I am a triple major ( bio, chem, behavioral neuroscience) and I umderstamd being stressed. I have two papers due tomor row before midnight. I am also studying for my MCATS. I work in real estate for a company mom co owns so I am, secretary/ assistant/back up realtor and I help get documents for loans. Plus I planning this wedding is taking up sometime. 

School should come first and focus of getting back on track. Also you have to plan ahead with it comes to school. iplan my days. I see my vendors on the days I am off from school. The days that I am on campus my days are devorted to studyin and writing papers. 

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Helper bee

I understand. I am in undergrad as is my husband. We had been together 5 years by the time we got married and we were just so ready to be married that it didn’t make sense to wait until graduation. Both of us work full time; in fact I was working between 54 and 63 hours a week in addition to being a full time student at the time we got engaged. I made it through that semester with good grades but I had to put school on the back burner during the next semester. Classes were supposed to start in August and our wedding was in September (my husband’s best man is in the military and it was crucial to my husband that he attend our wedding and September was the only time he could take leave). I just could not function with the wedding occurring during the semester, especially since my husband would be in school. One of us had to handle the planning, vendors, etc and it ended up being me since I was having a hard time focusing anyways.

 

On the upside, my husband and I are paying for both of our educations in cash. Having the extra time off made it easier to save up and now we will not need to take out loans in the future. I was originally super bummed, embarrassed, and felt like a failure for putting school off (I started college a couple years late to begin with) but now I am very grateful for the extra time that I had. 

 

I guess what I’m saying is try not to beat yourself up too much. Do your absolute best, but if something happens there very well may be a silver lining that you can’t yet recognize. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It is difficult to balance everything. You are far from alone! I have worked, planned a wedding, and taken care of my son while in college. You are nearly there!!! As am I… It is harder when you are in classes that are difficult because you have to dedicate more time to studying… We will succeed. Just keep reminding yourself that you are almost there and how amazing it will feel to accomplish your goal. Take care of yourself!

Post # 8
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I feel ya. 

I’m doing my internship so I’m working 40+ hours a week. I have 4 papers due on Friday, that I haven’t worked on. Then I will have 4 more shorter papers and my big research paper due on April 29. Then I will be finished!!!

But, I’m having a hard time focusing. Fiance just got a promotion (he also graduates in May but he’s been working full time for 3 years) and we are moving about 2 hours away. I’ve been focusing on finding somewhere to live. He starts his job on Easter so I would really like to have somewhere to live by the middle of April so we can start moving our stuff there. But there are literally 4 houses for rent where we are moving so it’s frustrating.

I’m putting off wedding planning until after graduation, but it doesn’t really matter cause I’ll still have a year at that point and we are having a small destination wedding. 

This semester has been a hell of a lot easier than last spring and fall so I’m focusing on that lol. Good luck and take care of yourself.

Post # 9
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I am also a full-time student and I work about 25-30 hours a week so I know how you feel! This is my last semester and I will be graduating this summer, so I’m just trying to push through and finish with good grades. It can be very hard for me to concentrate sometimes and get everything done on time, but you just have to prioritize your time and force yourself to get the work done. It’s so easy for me to get distracted with wedding blogs and sites as I’m constantly thinking of my upcoming wedding, but I have to force myself to get off the sites and do my work lol. Luckily for me, my FI’s parents are hiring a wedding planner and taking care of mostly everything so I don’t really need to worry much about the actual planning aspects. If you’re actively planning the wedding, I would just say that time management is going to be your best friend. Good luck, you’ll get through it! 

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Busy bee

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gijanedoe:  Are you sure you’ve got a handle on your depression?  Depression presents in different ways and a lack of motivation can definitely be one of them.  If you’re on some sort of medication, maybe discuss switching it up.  Maybe a trip to a counselor is in order?  

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