Post # 1
Ack. So as I’m waiting for my models to run so I can continue to work on my dissertation… I keep thinking about all the things beyond this damn thing, mainly getting engaged and going on our cruise at the end of June (which is supposed to be to celebrate finishing the diss, so I better finish it!!). Anyways… in addition to looking up things like “what should I pack for an 8 day cruise” I also find myself looking up proposals on cruises? Like I’m going to plan my own proposal… I am a huge control freak, type A planner, and its hard for me to sit back and let Boyfriend or Best Friend do it. I know he will, he told me he will (AFTER the diss is done), so I just need to wait but I’m ansy to plan!!!
I know, I need to chill out, but I plan everything and I think about how things will go (its why sometimes I get massive insomnia if I have events coming up or am traveling). It is really hard for me to just say, yup, Boyfriend or Best Friend, I trust you to propose. I just don’t want him NOT proposing before or during the cruise to ruin the trip! Alright I’ll stop now….
Post # 3
Haha, I understand the sort of thoughts racing through your head right now. Maybe dedicate 15 minutes (or more, but 15’s easy to commit to) to do something relaxing for yourself? Yoga, bath, something? It’ll help you feel calmer about everything, including waiting.
Post # 4
I have a little type A…lol. I am such a planner/organizer it sometimes drives my Darling Husband nuts. I’m always making sure everything is in order….so although nothing speciifcally related to engagements/proposals, your not alone with being type A 🙂
Post # 5
hi, my name is RinaRoo and I’m a total type A. My vendors all hate me because of how controlling I always am. As for the cruise thing, don’t worry about it. 🙂 Contrary to what we (type As) may believe, our fiances are quite capable (otherwise we wouldn’t be with them, right?).
Post # 6
I… LOVE! TO PLAN!!!!
so much. unfortunately, yes, it makes me an impatient lady in waiting… I want to know what i’m going to be doing 6 months from now, 1 year from now, 2, 5… you get the picture. I keep doing backwards math to see when he would have to propose for my ideal marriage/house/kids timeline… lol!
Post # 7
I’m totally Type A and not afraid to admit it. I plan everything down to the last detail, and yes, the waiting is excruciating. I know he’s going to do it, but it bothers me that I have no idea how or when. I’m currently trying to focus my energy into other little things, like what outfits I’m going to wear for our engagement shots [ordered my dress today!] and where we could take them. After I have that figured out, I’ll move on to something else. Good luck waiting- it’s tough when you’re a planner.
Post # 8
I’m totally type A!!! As spontaneous as I can be I hate not having important things planned out and I hate the feeling and idea of not knowing what’s going on. It reached a point where SO had to basically sit me down and tell me that “he understands my need to control things but I need to get over it and just accept the fact that this is in his hands and out of my control. I need to trust him that it will happen and that he wants it to happen his way…
Post # 9
*raises hand* Total Type A here. I have pages upon pages of links to webpages to check out after he proposes so basically I have everything I need to plan a wedding before I even need to.
Thankfully, the SO likes the Type A-ness especially because it meant that I did all the researching when it came to my ring and his watch and because whenever we go on vacation somewhere, I’ve already maps, public transport routes and timetables, itineraries, vouchers for meals, etc. sorted.
Post # 10
Yes. Patience is not a concept I learned in life. If I want something I need to go get it! I plan everything and my most overused phrase is “I’ll just do it myself” haha!
Post # 11
@KatyElle: “If I want something I need to go get it!”
Post # 12
I am, for sure. My SO is totally laid back, chill, not a planner at all, and I swear I have not idea why he puts up with me. Luckily he seems to find it cute and helpful, not crazy like I would think. We’ve discussed timelines enough that I know we’re on the same page, so I can kinda chill and know that it will happen.
I’m sure when it gets closer to the time I’m expecting the propsal I’ll be much more antsy and crazy.