(Closed) Anyone else a little upset with Valentines gift from the FI?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

This is our first V-Day engaged and we didn’t do gifts at all.

I think the edible arrangement is sweat, and it certainly means he thinks you are beautiful the way you are. If you are that worried about the calories, peel off the chocolate. The strawberries are usually amazing in those things.

Vent away and get it out of your system, and then enjoy a strawberry (or 5).

Post # 4
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I’m not trying to be snarky or bitchy, but this is why I hate Valentine’s Day.  Women expect way too much on a commercialized holiday.  He loves you.  There should not be a designated day which [almost] EVERYONE celebrates.  It’s the thoughts that count.  I really do feel bad for the men.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2011

Know what you mean. It was our first Vday as a married couple. I got grocery store roses (you know, the kind where all the pedals are already falling off and brown) in a color I don’t like, stuck in one of our drinking glasses and a bag of hugs candy. I spent almost $100 on super amazing new lingerie (like a whole outfit kind of thing, cute bra, panties, pearls, thigh highs and these super hot shoes ) that I thought he would love, got a new haircut (that he never noticed) made chocolate covered strawberries AND bought his favorite candy. To the outfit I was very pleased with, I simply got “You’re overdressed for dinner” which was at Chilis. Instead of the fun evening I had planned (candles, strawberries and all that fun) I am sitting in fuzzy PJ pants eatting pudding. Valentines Day sucks. 

Oh I would also like to say he so kindly told me he had forgotten totally and got this stuff on the way home for work. I had been planning for like a week, yet when HE wants to go shooting, he will move heaven and earth to get everything he wants together. 

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

i wont say what im thinking because you know what people are going to say but vent away and try to take a breath – he did a really nice thing for you, try to celebrate that

Post # 8
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Leonard2B:  Men sometimes, I swear they don’t think. God love them, we love them anyway.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would have loved your gift. Send it my way!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I think sometimes men just aren’t sure what to do because they feel so much pressure on them for Valentine’s Day. We women, a lot of times, have exact ideas of how we would like our guys to act and then when they don’t do that, we get upset..but let’s try to just appreciate their thoughts and teach them what wlll knock our socks off for next time!

Post # 12
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@Rouquine:   I agree.  This is why I never cared for it.  I dont want my guy to just go out and waste any amount of money on flowers that will die, chocolate I cant/dont want to finish, or small piece of jewelery I dont really want/need/like just cause he feels like he has to do something.

 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

We didn’t get any gifts for each other for valentines day. I made him a nice dinner and got him a card but he wasn’t able to get anything for me because he was working all day (I didn’t have to work today). I didn’t mind at all and actually felt like I should do something nice for him. He does so much for me every other day of the year and valentines is really just another day.

I think that the thought of your FI’s gift was sweet. Every couple is different though and only you can gauge the sentiment/importance of his gift.

If you need to vent, we are here to listen

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

@Leonard2B:  I think you should feel bad for your husband because the material things you bought him can’t make up for how he must feel over your dissapointment. You had an idea in your head of what you wanted, he went above that (granted in the wrong direction) & now you’re upset. That is the worst result he could have ended up with: overspending & getting an angry fiance in return…

Communicate what you want/expect next time.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Undecided

I can’t wait for this wretched entitled “holiday” to END already… It seems like all people have done today is complain about gifts given out of love.

Post # 16
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Well you did get him “lots and lots of chocolates” so other than the card seems pretty equal.

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