Post # 1
I dont want to sound ungrateful or spoiled but my Fiance is usually really good with gifts and getting really setimental cards. This is our first VD being engaged and I guess I just expected a little more, instead I got a lot less. I got him a gift certificate for a massage, which we are going to Saturday, im getting one too but paying for my own. He knew this in advance because I had to make appointments. I also got him a really nice card and lots and lots of chocolates. He got me a edible arrangements sent to my work, chocolate covered strawberries 24 of them! what the hell am i going to do with 24 chocolate covered strawberries? I honestly love strawberries but I have been working out every day and eating good so when I get these I am a little disappointed because he knows how hard ive been working not to gain more weight. I am very grateful he even thought of me but I thought when I got home he would at least have a card but nothing. Cards mean a lot to me, I have saved every one since we have been together.
I dont know I am happy that he got me something but could have thought of a lot better things to spend 100+ dollars on. I would rather have had that money go towards our wedding then strawberries! eh I really am grateful to have a wonderful man in my life, I just needed to vent!
I know people are going to not like what I have to say but please im not trying to get opinions im just venting about how I feel since I dont want to say this to the Fiance.
Post # 3
- Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort
This is our first V-Day engaged and we didn’t do gifts at all.
I think the edible arrangement is sweat, and it certainly means he thinks you are beautiful the way you are. If you are that worried about the calories, peel off the chocolate. The strawberries are usually amazing in those things.
Vent away and get it out of your system, and then enjoy a strawberry (or 5).
Post # 4
I’m not trying to be snarky or bitchy, but this is why I hate Valentine’s Day. Women expect way too much on a commercialized holiday. He loves you. There should not be a designated day which [almost] EVERYONE celebrates. It’s the thoughts that count. I really do feel bad for the men.
Post # 5
Know what you mean. It was our first Vday as a married couple. I got grocery store roses (you know, the kind where all the pedals are already falling off and brown) in a color I don’t like, stuck in one of our drinking glasses and a bag of hugs candy. I spent almost $100 on super amazing new lingerie (like a whole outfit kind of thing, cute bra, panties, pearls, thigh highs and these super hot shoes ) that I thought he would love, got a new haircut (that he never noticed) made chocolate covered strawberries AND bought his favorite candy. To the outfit I was very pleased with, I simply got “You’re overdressed for dinner” which was at Chilis. Instead of the fun evening I had planned (candles, strawberries and all that fun) I am sitting in fuzzy PJ pants eatting pudding. Valentines Day sucks.
Oh I would also like to say he so kindly told me he had forgotten totally and got this stuff on the way home for work. I had been planning for like a week, yet when HE wants to go shooting, he will move heaven and earth to get everything he wants together.
Post # 6
i wont say what im thinking because you know what people are going to say but vent away and try to take a breath – he did a really nice thing for you, try to celebrate that
Post # 8
@Leonard2B: Men sometimes, I swear they don’t think. God love them, we love them anyway.
Post # 9
I would have loved your gift. Send it my way!
Post # 10
I think sometimes men just aren’t sure what to do because they feel so much pressure on them for Valentine’s Day. We women, a lot of times, have exact ideas of how we would like our guys to act and then when they don’t do that, we get upset..but let’s try to just appreciate their thoughts and teach them what wlll knock our socks off for next time!
Post # 11
I understand that he did a VERY nice thing for me and like I said im not trying to sound ungrateful. I would rather have had a card, then waste money on $100 of strawberries! I wasnt looking for anything more than that, just saying he could have saved a lot of money.
I dont feel bad for him, he is getting a massage and got massive amounts of chocolates that he loves, he got what he wanted and I didnt waste 100 of something that will rot in the fridge.
Post # 12
@Rouquine: I agree. This is why I never cared for it. I dont want my guy to just go out and waste any amount of money on flowers that will die, chocolate I cant/dont want to finish, or small piece of jewelery I dont really want/need/like just cause he feels like he has to do something.
Post # 13
We didn’t get any gifts for each other for valentines day. I made him a nice dinner and got him a card but he wasn’t able to get anything for me because he was working all day (I didn’t have to work today). I didn’t mind at all and actually felt like I should do something nice for him. He does so much for me every other day of the year and valentines is really just another day.
I think that the thought of your FI’s gift was sweet. Every couple is different though and only you can gauge the sentiment/importance of his gift.
If you need to vent, we are here to listen
Post # 14
@Leonard2B: I think you should feel bad for your husband because the material things you bought him can’t make up for how he must feel over your dissapointment. You had an idea in your head of what you wanted, he went above that (granted in the wrong direction) & now you’re upset. That is the worst result he could have ended up with: overspending & getting an angry fiance in return…
Communicate what you want/expect next time.
Post # 15
I can’t wait for this wretched entitled “holiday” to END already… It seems like all people have done today is complain about gifts given out of love.
Post # 16
Well you did get him “lots and lots of chocolates” so other than the card seems pretty equal.