(Closed) Anyone else a lonely bride?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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8369 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am sorry you are feeling this way. I read your other post as well and I am wondering if you have been living in your new country for 2 years have you made any local friends?

As far as family and friends from home- I am not sure what the distance is or where you are/they are but it can be a great expense for others to travel to an overseas wedding. There is time off work plus the financial side of things. Unfortunately invitation declines are just part and parcel of having an overseas wedding and you shouldn’t hold it against guests for not being able to make it whatever their reason. but you can feel disappointed but again try not to let it ruin your relationship with these people.

We would all like to believe that we would do anything to attend a friend/family members wedding but in reality sometimes it just doesn;t happen whether it is due to finances or a fear of flying.

Can you not ask your IL’s to be involved?

I think you should just focus on the people that are able to make it and enjoy the experience.

Post # 4
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Can this friend or family member not make a speech for you? Also is it possible to have other members of your friends and family to join you via Skype? Your family could be seen on a tv screen and could have their own party  together with you heck some of them could even make speeches over the Internet. 

The Internet is amazing, so stay positive and get a Skype session set up for the day. 

Post # 6
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807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Sorry I thought u were living in a different country to them.

 

Is it too late to invite people that you didn’t invite in the first place. Like former co-workers that maybe you haven’t seen for a while just people you felt that you got along with? You have obviously budgeted for a lot more people so if it was me I would get my thinking cap on and start looking up the phone numbers of “long lost friends”. 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If you want your mum and sister there then you need to speak to them today and tell them that it would mean a lot to you if they came.

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

“Why should I try to Skype them”? 

You are going to be lonely on your wedding day, I merely suggested YOU set up Skype because I felt bad that you were not going to have family with you and this is the next best thing. I previously stated I suggested it because I thought they couldn’t be there because i thought you were in a different country. 

I am not a mind reader. I did not know your mother doesn’t work etc.

It’s your wedding, only you can improve lines of communication within your own family to sort this out if you want any of them to be there.

If you don’t pick the phone up and start talking (and listening) to them, you will be alone on your big day. There must be a reason why you have been alienated from your family, and please don’t say it’s all their fault blah blah blah. I find it very bizarre that you only have 1 guest attending. No co-workers, neighbours, nothing? Get your finger out and start calling loads of friends, don’t just sit there feeling sorry for yourself because you have lots of time to fill up your guest list.

Post # 10
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3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Perhaps you should host a rehearsal dinner or a pre-rehearsal cocktail reception where you can be extra outgoing in an attempt to get to know some of the guests on your fiance’s side. while that will not take the place of family and loved ones who can’t attend, it can give you the social comfort level to mingle and mix at your wedding without feeling awkward if your fiance/husband leaves your side, and you may be laying the foundation for strong relationships with some of those guests.

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