Post # 1
Anyone else feels alone?
Im having only one guest from my family and friends coming. No bachelorette party and I just feel so alone and don’t no how to keep smiling when I know on the day I won’t get the speeches or get to see people I know.
Am I the only one with this issue?
Post # 3
I am sorry you are feeling this way. I read your other post as well and I am wondering if you have been living in your new country for 2 years have you made any local friends?
As far as family and friends from home- I am not sure what the distance is or where you are/they are but it can be a great expense for others to travel to an overseas wedding. There is time off work plus the financial side of things. Unfortunately invitation declines are just part and parcel of having an overseas wedding and you shouldn’t hold it against guests for not being able to make it whatever their reason. but you can feel disappointed but again try not to let it ruin your relationship with these people.
We would all like to believe that we would do anything to attend a friend/family members wedding but in reality sometimes it just doesn;t happen whether it is due to finances or a fear of flying.
Can you not ask your IL’s to be involved?
I think you should just focus on the people that are able to make it and enjoy the experience.
Post # 4
Can this friend or family member not make a speech for you? Also is it possible to have other members of your friends and family to join you via Skype? Your family could be seen on a tv screen and could have their own party together with you heck some of them could even make speeches over the Internet.
The Internet is amazing, so stay positive and get a Skype session set up for the day.
Post # 5
Yes I understand it’s expensive but they could say no?
I have had people pretend they didn’t get an invite, ignore I invited them and simply say I rather go somewhere else.
I feel so angry, how can I ever be friends with or ever forgive them for ignoring me. I had some friends say they cannot come and that’s fine! No hurt feelings there.
I feel embarrassed like I must be the most horrible person on this planet to not get Even a no response.
People were sooo happy and so willing to come when I first announced it. Then everyone got upset thinking I’m doing favors for myfiancées family and so on.
I recently went to a wedding and seeing all the speeches and all the families coming together just made me cry ( no not infront of anyone). How can I feel it’s a wedding when I don’t have anyone to share the joy with me.
Yes my fiancée is there but I don’t want to be clinging on to him all night were he goes I go, feeling awkward at the table when he leaves. When they have family photos I won’t have my family.
I have tried really hard to keep smiling but now it’s a month it’s just kicked me in the face and I can’t stop thinking about it.
Everyine is oh I’m sorry your not having anyone and it seems so sad
Post # 6
Sorry I thought u were living in a different country to them.
Is it too late to invite people that you didn’t invite in the first place. Like former co-workers that maybe you haven’t seen for a while just people you felt that you got along with? You have obviously budgeted for a lot more people so if it was me I would get my thinking cap on and start looking up the phone numbers of “long lost friends”.
Post # 7
Maybe Skype but then I feel so upset. Why should I try to Skype with them when my mum doesn’t work and only 1 week off. I offered to pay for my sister and mum and I would have done that happily and let them stay at my house. No cost to them at all.
I feel so ashamed that I get my fiancées family and my fiancee doesn’t get a nice family back. And I feel bad for him because he feel bad that no one is coming for me
I guess I just have to forget everything. My sister was my bridesmaid and then decided not to come.
I guess I thought maybe they would come or tried to think that it’s ok.
If anything I just wanted my mum and sister there.
Post # 8
If you want your mum and sister there then you need to speak to them today and tell them that it would mean a lot to you if they came.
Post # 9
“Why should I try to Skype them”?
You are going to be lonely on your wedding day, I merely suggested YOU set up Skype because I felt bad that you were not going to have family with you and this is the next best thing. I previously stated I suggested it because I thought they couldn’t be there because i thought you were in a different country.
I am not a mind reader. I did not know your mother doesn’t work etc.
It’s your wedding, only you can improve lines of communication within your own family to sort this out if you want any of them to be there.
If you don’t pick the phone up and start talking (and listening) to them, you will be alone on your big day. There must be a reason why you have been alienated from your family, and please don’t say it’s all their fault blah blah blah. I find it very bizarre that you only have 1 guest attending. No co-workers, neighbours, nothing? Get your finger out and start calling loads of friends, don’t just sit there feeling sorry for yourself because you have lots of time to fill up your guest list.
Post # 10
Perhaps you should host a rehearsal dinner or a pre-rehearsal cocktail reception where you can be extra outgoing in an attempt to get to know some of the guests on your fiance’s side. while that will not take the place of family and loved ones who can’t attend, it can give you the social comfort level to mingle and mix at your wedding without feeling awkward if your fiance/husband leaves your side, and you may be laying the foundation for strong relationships with some of those guests.