(Closed) Anyone else actually prefer to adopt, regardless of whether you CAN have kids?

posted 7 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

If we ever change our minds and decided we want kids (right now we are very happy being childless), we would adopt.  We both agree that we would rather adopt than get pregnant.  I have never had that “urge” to get pregnant (I am 33), and there are plenty of kids in need of a good loving home, so why go through a pregnancy? 

Post # 4
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

That is a totally selfless thing to do and I stand and applaud you.  I have alot of personal reasons for loving those wonderful people that chose to adopt.

*****Standing Ovation******

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee

Personally (I haven’t ever had a discussion about this with the BF) I would like to adopt a child eventually. Regardless if I have my own children, I feel like this is something I could do to make a child’s life more stable and hopefully happier.

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We have decided that we will most likely adopt unless I have twins the first go ’round – it’s possible based on family history and the fact that I will have to be on Clomid to TTC because of my PCOS. We may even go for a third child in that case.

Adoption is a beautiful thing. Without it I wouldn’t be here. I wasn’t adopted myself, but BOTH of my parents were adopted and then they adopted my youngest sister. Pics? Why yes. haha. This is one from last year. She completes our family. (I was going to put up one of me, my brothers, and her…but they never have shirts on and I thought that might be creepy, haha.) Sorry the pic is HUGE, I tried to resize it to no avail.

I respect the hell out of others that do it and try really hard to get across the amazing feelings I have on the issue. My sister is a special needs adoption, though you can’t tell.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Me! Unless SO randomly and unexpectedly develops a compelling wish to reproduce, I plan on adopting and/or foster parenting.

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I plan on adopting. I want to have one child. Get used to being a mom while beginning the process to adopt another. I know it can take a few years. And then adopt a child. And if we still feel like we can or should have more (I want a big family so I am sure that will happen) we will have another. And then, who knows, maybe even adopt another after that! But my adopted kids will be from the US and will not be babies. There is a group that is so forgotten about because aopting internationally is so popular and everybody wants a baby.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Mrs Hedgehog: I get what you’re saying, but it’s all about personal preference. My sister was a special needs international adoption and was 4.5 years old.

@cbee: Thanks. She is really something special. She has one of the most bubbly personalities in a child that anyone will ever meet. I don’t know anyone that meets her and doesn’t love her. She’s 7! :/ Getting so big.

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

IF we ever have kids, we will adopt 🙂

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’ve always wanted to adopt a little girl from China.  In high school, someone did their senior project about the One Child Policy in China and I remember feeling so strongly about giving those children, most of them being girls, a good life. 

However, I also want to have biological children of my own if possible.  I’ve always told Fiance that if we end up having 2-3 boys of our own, I want to adopt a little girl from China.  Or, when our children get older (teens/20s) I might consider adopting because we are planning on having children fairly young.  I work at a preschool and one of our little girls was adopted from Asia when her parents discovered they weren’t ready for an “empty nest” after their children grew up.  I think its an amazing thing to do for those who choose to.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Yea I definitely would.  I’m not sure why so many people prefer adopting from China or Russia (I have 2 girlfriends who want to adopt from China).  Why not American?  There are just as many babies/kids in this country who need homes too.

I personally love the idea of skipping through the pregnancy/birth part and even the potty training and adopting a 5 year old lol  I’ll definitely try to have my own too though.  I’m very good with small kids and even teenagers, but babies are a different story.

 

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@Mrs Hedgehog:*applause* 

I’m an international adoptee and I actually wish more people would adopt domestically. From foster care. Those are the kids who truly need parents. International adoptions are a huge business. And a lot of people don’t see that. I’m a Korean adoptee and I think it’s not right that 200K of Koreas children have been adopted out internationally, It’s time more countries started focusing on eliminating the “need” for adoptions and focusing on domestic adoptions when possible. 

Not saying there’s anything wrong with IA, but I do feel as though domestic adoption should be encouraged. Especially since there are so many kids in America who are legally free to adopt! Just because they aren’t babies doesn’t mean they aren’t deserving.

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