(Closed) Anyone else allowing their BM’s to pick their dresses?

posted 10 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 32
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I am letting them have mostly free rein with a couple stipulations:

– Grape-ish or Hunter to Grass Green (think the colors in a purple hydrangea)

– Straps are a plus

– Keeps everything covered (2 of my girls are on the busty side, and one could, as she says, have a V down her navel and not show a thing)

– Must have a bra on underneath (sounds silly I know)

Of course, they keep sending me options and making sure I’m okay with them all. I have yet to see one that I wasn’t. It looks like the two from my hometown are really liking the same dress, one in green and one in purple.

Post # 33
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I picked the Jcrew silk chiffon dresses in graphite but let the girls choose their own style of the dress.

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I told my girls “Something available in cranberry, and the fabric has to match. First girl to get to the store and pick a dress picks the fabric. “

It sort of worked. They did pick beautiful complementary dresses in cranberry that looked great on them, and the fabric does match…however the first girl picked a very expensive fabric, and the other bridesmaid couldn’t afford it. I ended up helping her out. Oops.  I think in retrospect I would do the same thing but put a cost cap on it, “Cranberry, fabric has to match and under X amount of dollars.”

Post # 35
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sorry, forgot to add good luck! I think letting bridesmaids choose is a great idea!

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I did! I picked Euro Eggplant color from Bill Levkoff and let them pick out their own dresses. They all have totally different figures and I wanted them to feel comforable and beautiful in their dresses.

Post # 37
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Sort of. I picked a color, fabric and desginer but they picked the style.

Post # 38
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did mostly.  I said grey, and you all have to agree on a designer and fabric.  They all picked the exact same dress.

Post # 39
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I only had 1 Maid/Matron of Honor, and I told her she can wear whatever she wants, any style, any color. She decided on her dress about a month before the wedding. It was beautiful, but I would’ve been fine with whatever she chose.

Post # 40
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I only have an Maid/Matron of Honor but I’m allowing her to pick her own dress. I don’t think she’ll decide on the dress until very close to the wedding.

In my case it helps that we don’t have wedding colours, so anything she chooses goes.

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

In modern times, a lot of people do this. My fiance’s aunt did that recently.

I AM letting my BMs select their own dress…I am just choosing the color. This is mostly because one of my sisters is very self-conscious of her body and I would like her to feel more comfortable, knowing that she picked out a dress that she personally thinks looks good on her body, because she is a little bit larger… So anyways I think it will work out perfectly. 

Sometimes people who do this just select a few dresses for people to choose from, however I am not doing that, in this case. I am being flexible for my sister, etc….

Good luck!

Post # 42
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I can’t them choose because I have to make sure the ceremony is conservative. Plus they all have different body types and I know a few with larger bust are going to go straight for the strapless. Unfortunately the church wouldn’t let us in! 🙂 I love the idea below.

I think I’m going to go to the same place I got my dress and have 2-3 dresses picked out for each. Then bring them all back and let them choose from those three. Who knows what will happen though when I actually go.

 

artbee– I love the flower dresses!

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

We went shopping together and all agreed on the same dress.

Post # 44
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I didn’t think it was fair to tell them, “You’re getting THIS dress” so I let my Maid/Matron of Honor pick the dress, I told her to pick between two colors.  Then we decided on a second bridesmaid and we got her the same dress online.

I do sort of wish I had seen it first though because she tried it on in a different color and ordered it in gold and this particular “gold” is like no gold I’ve ever seen. It’s the color of tan pantyhose.  So it kind of messed up my entire color scheme and I have less than a month to pull it together.  But hey, she likes it so it’s cool with me!

Post # 45
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Bumble bee

I let them choose together and pick their favorite 3-5 then i made the final decision.

Post # 46
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I told them a color and we went shopping together (me plus 2 of 3 bms). they loved a dress, my Maid/Matron of Honor agreed via pic-text, and it was done!

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