(Closed) Anyone else anxious about possible TTC issues?

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsHoneyC:  I know you probably don’t appreciate your friends’ advice, but in a way they are right.  Stressing about it now isn’t going to change whether or not you have difficulties conceiving.  Having said that, I *do* understand how you feel.  When I was younger, I had very erratic periods, sometimes coming twice in a month, sometimes going three months without having one at all.  I started BC to regulate my periods at 16 and stayed on them until my early 20’s.  When I started having a lot of negative side effects from BC, I went off, and my erratic periods came back.

My “helpful” RN at my gyn’s office told me that I probably just have “slow ovaries” and not to worry, it just meant I might have trouble conceiving one day.

Anyway.  Fast forward to this year at 32.  I got married.  I was a bit worried we’d have trouble, so we started a month after married not trying, not preventing….

and I got a BFP just 2 1/2 weeks later.  No charting, no awareness of anything….just sex every day for 10 days (that was just for fun–it’s a long story, but basically we like to break our own records).

 

So you just never know.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsHoneyC:  I totally hear you! I also have an autoimmune disorder (Graves’) that went into remission on its own but I’m terrified that it will come back and affect TTC or worse, come back after I get pregnant and cause problems then (such as MC or preterm labor). It’s scary but there’s nothing you can do until you start trying (we aren’t starting until June or Julyish). Just hope for the best!!

 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m right there with you.  We are in our second month of TTC, and I just got AF about 10 minutes ago.  I broke down and cried in the stall at work.  I have Hashimoto’s and am very very afraid that this could take years, if not ever at all.  

We started TTC earlier than predicted as I am most likely going to turn Hypo any day now.  Unfortunately I don’t have any words of advice as I’m just as scared as you are.  I just hope it’s comforting knowing that you won’t be the only one in this position when it comes time for you and your Darling Husband. 

Post # 9
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Helper bee

I am a carrier for a genetic disorder that causes the carrier to go into early menopause. We’re talking between 25-30 years old. I completely understand the fear. I know mine comes from believing that I could just ‘have a baby’. Unless fertility struggles run in your family, many women are raised to believe that you just ‘get pregnant’. My family has always struggled so a part of me knew that pregnancy would never be easy. On TV, with friends, and through acquaintances it sounds as simple as picking up a dozen eggs and 2% milk at the grocery store for some. The reality is that it isn’t always that simple, and there is a stage of mourning that seems to go along with it. My partner is a very healthy and fertile male so I feel like I’m the let down. I know how badly he wants children and although it isn’t by choice it is easy to blame myself for our predicament.  Just remember to not count yourself out of the TTC game just because there is a ‘chance’ that you might struggle. Heck, I know that I have a 97% chance of never being pregnant but I’m still holding onto some hope. You can’t give up until I do. lol. My doctor once said that stress is just as hard on a body trying to conceive as alcohol, poor diet, and lacking sleep. It’s amazing what stress can do to a body. You’re doing everything right, now you just need to relax and enjoy some nookie with your SO.

Are your families comments bugging you? If so you can do what we did. We sat our families down and explained the tough road we are going to face. At this point we let them ask questions about the diagnosis, our feelings, and discussed some ‘what ifs’.  Then we told them that if we have any news at all (good, bad, or neutral) we will tell them, but unless we addressed the topic to please not bring it up. For us the constant reminders from them about our ‘struggle’ was tough. They’ve been very understanding since then and it’s made a wonderful support network. 

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

4th month of TTC. (Graves disease here as well). But I have the added disadvantage of being 39 years old. I just try not to think too hard about things and remember that whether or not we have children will not dictate how awesome our life will be. In my mind, it’s in God’s hands and his timing.

Otherwise, if I sit and think about all of the factors that could be going against us, I’d get very sad. So I just don’t think about them. πŸ™‚

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I have hypothyroidism and am overweight (but losing every week! yay!), and we have been TTC for three months now.  As of Wednesday, we will be on to month four.  The first two months of BFNs were the worst.  I cried, was in a terrible mood, and was all-around negative.  I am not nearly as upset now that I am on month three (that sounds bad, but I am just more used to it now).  I know all the statistics about how many people get pregnant in a year, blah, blah, blah.  But I will be shocked if we are pregnant before 12 months.  But think of how skinny I will be by then.  πŸ˜‰

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I understand your anxiety, and I think it’s completely natural (I certainly did worry before we started) – but the reality is that you just won’t know until you start trying.

My family is incredibly fertile – mum used to say that her and her 4 sisters all got pregnant the first time they tried (and she’s one of 5 sisters, so obviously grandma had no problems either) – but I’m still TTC after 15 months.

My friend was sure she’d have problems, with long cycles, and her sisters have endo and PCOS, and she and her sisters all got pregnant very easily – she got pregnant straight after her honemoon and gave birth to her daughter yesterday. My BFF was told she’d have problems due to PCOS, but she is now pregnant with her second, both pregnancies conceived on her first try.

Moral of the story – there is no point worrying about things before they happen!! Sounds like you are already doing everything you can to improve your chances – all the best when it comes to TTC πŸ™‚

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Me.  We’re not going to be even thinking about TTC for a few years yet, but we both want to have kids for sure.   Recently though, I was diagnosed with polycystic ovarian syndrome (can cause infertility, miscarriage rates go up) and endometriosis (can cause some of the same problems).  Between the two, my GYN isn’t too concerned, but she has said it could be a definite issue for us πŸ™

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I’m worried about problems getting pregnant, as well. We have a Dirty Delete who will be 9 this year, and I’m scared that so much has changed (age, weight gain, etc.) since her conception/birth that it just might not happen for us. On top of my changes, Darling Husband has a really bad scrotal inguinal hernia, so I’ve been doing research to see if that will have any effect on things (so far, I’ve read that things should be fine)…

I thought I was pregnant last month, but unfortunately AF showed a week late. I then found out my Brother-In-Law and his wife are expecting, so that drove the baby fever into hyper-drive…
I try not to over-think and stress about it, but it’s easier said than done.

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I get nervous about it, I won’t lie. My mom had a hysterectomy when she was in her mid-late 30’s. I am a little overweight. I am having my first meeting with my OB-GYN later this month to ask some questions about trying to get pregnant, things I should be doing, etc. I will turn 29 in a few months and we’d like to have conceived our first child before I turn 30. Our goal is to start trying in April. I’m nervous, but I know worrying won’t help anything. I’m using this time right now to drop some weight, eat healthier, and trying to lessen my anxiety.

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