Post # 1
I’ve never done it before.
So I’m really just trying to calm myself down and get up the balls to do this.
The job in question is basically somewhere in between working for Blockbuster Video and being a temp–it requires a college education and a minimal degree of skill, but it’s something I took for extra pocket-money and not something I need on my resume. It’s sort of like telemarketing. When I quit (which I did in part because they treat me poorly), they asked for a bunch of paperwork. I’m missing one particular document. I’ve looked everywhere for it; nothing. I’ve emailed my supervisor already saying that it’s gone, but he won’t get it until Monday and I am freaking out, losing sleep, etc.
I suspect that my supervisor will call me to chew me out (again). The regular old me would sit on the phone and take it as punishment for losing the files in the first place. DH, however, says that’s crazy. He thinks that since I’ve quit, there’s no point in setting myself up for further abuse. He says I’ve done all I can–I’ve done my best to try and find it and I’ve come clean about the mistake–and that since I’ve quit, I should cultivate an attitude of, “Well, sorry, but it’s your problem now” and says that if my boss calls to berate me over this (likely), I should essentially say something along the lines of:
“Excuse me, but Is anything unclear about the document missing? No? Well then, considering I no longer work with X Company I don’t think that you berating me over the mistake is an appropriate use of my time or yours.” And hang up.
Part of this is because he doesn’t like the way they’ve been treating me either and because he wants to see me stand up for myself more because I have trouble being assertive in the workplace. And in the end, I’ve already burned the bridge with this place by virtue of quitting. I guess that I just needed some help steeling my nerves!
Post # 3
I agree with your DH. It sounds like they have been not very nice at all. I’ve been in a similar situation and my Fiance said the same thing as your DH, basically, it’s not your problem. It’s done and over. No need to loose sleep, although I know how that goes! Hopefully everything will clear up soon and you will have calm nervous. But I would not let it get to you, or worry to much. It’s there problem now, you are no longer in buisness with them :”]]
Post # 4
I don’t see why they should be begging you for that information because you are done working there so what does it matter to them?
Post # 5
I wouldn’t talk to your old sup at all. There is no reason for it. You have already resigned and addressed the situation, you don’t have the document, there is nothing you can do about it. If you come across it later, send it in if you think it is that important. Don’t stress, life is already too hard to worry about this stuff, trust your DH, guys are usually pretty good at this stuff.
Post # 6
(To clarify–I haven’t officially left. I still have to sign exit papers.)
Post # 7
I would offer a differing opinion. Although I wouldn’t personally expend any energy on worrying about it, I would be as pleasant as I can.
Your next employer may contact this person when you apply for a new job.
Post # 8
You’re right. I think the thing is, I’m the type that confuses being polite and courteous with being abused (without being too dramatic!). So I’m just gearing up that even though I will definitely be nice, I’m also going to put my foot down it it comes to the supervisor essentially airing frustrations. I mean, he reacted in such a way when I told him I was leaving that it’s sort of like I already burned the bridge just by quitting, let alone all this stuff.
It’s unlikely a new boss would call this company–it was a two-month stint and it’s not going on my resume.
Post # 9
i would do my best to never ever burn a bridge professionally – i have seen just how small the world it is and paths cross to not risk it
so i suggest you be as pleasant but firm as possible – you can only do what you can do, the document cannot be found so they will have to accept and deal with it
Post # 10
You do always have the option of not answering the phone. They will leave a message. You can call back when you know that he is not there.
etc etc etc