(Closed) Anyone else cancel their wedding and go to the courthouse? Do you regret it?

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Post # 17
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

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katken2210:  that’s sounds great I think. Just stick to your guns and allow your inlaws to be sad for a bit but they need to get over it. 

My BFf planned a 100k wedding and let everyone steamroll her during planning and she was MISERABLE on the day. Stressed overwhelmed and worried about everyone else. her wedding is a sore subject. She refuses to talk about it and she even refuses to go see her pics at the photographer ( a pricey one at that) it’s been 7 months and still! She wishes she just did an intimate Destination Wedding or eloped. 

Post # 18
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

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katken2210:  Aha! That makes total sense now, thanks. Keep us posted on how the future in laws react!

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

We are doing that! I had a few people give me some flack but at this point I’m realizing my fiance and I are the only ones who have to be ok with it. We’re doing a small ceremony at a state park with 20 guest, a wedding photographer and I’ll be wearing a pretty, white sheath. Simple.

Your plans sound perfect and similar! Best wishes! I’m excited for you! 🙂

Post # 20
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

My sister ended up cancelling her wedding when her husband’s family was being SUPER rude and uncooperative. She did the courthouse route and still had a groomsmen and bridesmaids. The judge was so wonderful and even bumped the event to the bigger courtroom so that more people could fit. Afterwards, we took some photos around the city and then headed to a nice and cozy dinner. Such a sweet event. Hope it goes well for you!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

My parents eloped. My mom recently told me that while she doesn’t regret them eloping, she does feel like she missed out, but not so much that she wishes they hadn’t eloped. It just means she is having fun helping us with our wedding. As her child, it does make me sad that I don’t have pictures from her wedding, or an something to use as my “something old” that she also had, though.

Post # 22
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Helper bee

I am from Germany. It is very common here that a wedding only takes place in town hall and has no ceremony at all. I’m not sure how a town hall wedding is beeing held in the US. In Germany it the register office may be at town hall, a castle, on a ship.. You name it!! We have them all over and in beautiful and unique places, because it is so popular. The wedding will be like a cermony, very personal and of course you can bring lots of guests. After that there will be a wedding reception. 

I am sure this won’t be super helpful but I just wanted to give you a little insight on how it is done in Germany.

If I would be you I would keep it nice and simple, just invite the absolute most important people in your life. After all it is a very intimate day. I always wonder if those huge big wedding make that much sense. It’s the day you celebrate your love and with a couple hundred guests you won’t have much time with your hubby or parents/best friends.. 

 

Post # 23
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

We aren’t eloping, well not in secret anyway.  We are getting married on vacation – just us – then having a party when we come back.  My parents were a bit disappointed but they understand, plus I’m the youngest of 4 girls so they are kind of over the big weddings.  My Future Mother-In-Law was not so happy, but the party will be at her restaurant so it will be OK because she can invite more people than our budget originally allowed.

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