Post # 1
I had a close guy friend, that wanted to be more than a friend. He starting acting obessive because I didn’t have as much time to hang out (hello, planning a wedding, buying a house?). All my other friends, we’re totally understanding about this, and got that I had a lot going on. Bag of Crazy, did not. Now, I also caught him driving by my apartment, which REALLY freaked me out and sealed my decision that I wanted nothing to do with him. I told him that I was uncomfortable with his behavior and didn’t want to be friends anymore.
He’s now started obessively texting one of my other friends about me. She’s told him she’s not going to discuss me with him and he needs to let it go. He refuses to let it go and is basically threatening me, through her, that he’s going to do something to break up the wedding.
I told my FH about the situation (that I was no longer friends with him, he had ulterior motives, and had starting acting kind of crazy), but it feels like it’s starting to escalate, what with him thinking of directly interfering with my life.
Does anyone else have this kind of ridiculous drama going on?
Post # 3
That is not healthy at all. I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! I don’t have anything like that going on, but I highly recommend that you start documenting this behavior. It’s not normal and if you have cause to think he may hurt you, you may have grounds for a restraining order.
Post # 4
I’m in total agreement with MissHelen. Restraining order time. This is bordering on harassment/stalking and that is NOT good.
Post # 5
NO! That is ridiculous!
You didn’t ask for my advice, but mine would be to spring for some security, even if it is just a casual friend on the beefy side who will watch out for this guy. A little bit of money spent on this could buy a whole lot of peace of mind.
Post # 6
I totally agree with the above. Although, I don’t think you can get a restraining order unless you can show that your well-being and safety is being threatened.
Otherwise, I would contact your venue to see if they’ve encountered anything like that and what, if anything, they can do to help on the day of. It could be that the security staff at the hall or wherever is given a photo of the expected crasher so they know who is NOT supposed to be there.
Post # 7
I say buy some security. I would not get a restraining order, though, because, frighteningly, that makes true psychos escalate in action (so says my lawyer parents who deal with criminal cases like this). Do you live with your FI?
edit: and I don’t mean to alarm you! This jerk is probably trying to bully you and your friends into giving him attention. He’ll probably get scared when he hears you’re getting security for the wedding and stay away from the ceremony on.
Post # 8
Sorry you are dealing with this. I agree with the previous answers. Hopefully he will back off!