Anyone else coping with dress regret?

posted 3 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course

At the end of the day its just a piece of clothing. What you accomplish the day you wear it is far more important than the dress itself. I had plenty of regret bc I’m indecisive by nature and couldn’t figure out what I needed from a dress. But I had zero expectations of some magical, tear inducing absurd YES type moment bc that doesn’t fit my personality at all. My dress is super comfortable, looks good on me and I feel awesome in it, thats enough. My advice is stop looking at other dresses and focus on what you love about the one you have, especially since buying another isn’t an option.

Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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kbal :  I’d love to see your dress! What I found was that I didn’t have really any high quality pictures of my dress after  and the pictures I had didn’t reflect the dress very well. Some suggestions : go back and try on the dress, try on the dress with your accessories etc, remember it will look different when you have your hair and makeup done, stop looking at other dresses, take some higher quality photos and videos of you in your dress, remember no one else will know what other dress options you had… 

all that said I had dress regret, ended up selling my first dress and buying a second off Craigslist. It sounds though that yours was couture so probably a pretty penny – so really try to visualize how you will look when everything is together! 

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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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kbal :  press the basic button at the top to upload the image, sometimes people think the image is too big but it should be fine 

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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kbal :  oh my god it’s an amazing dress. The detail is just incredible, I don’t think this could look anything less than that on you. Once it’s come in your size and all altered to fit you it’s going to be great. Like damn, I don’t think that dress could look bad even if you tried! I know you said you werent sure about the lace placement on the bust and bodice but I think it’s there to highlight your curves. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

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kbal :  he’s probably never seen you in a couture wedding gown in his life so I’m sure he’s going to find you beautiful in this one 😉 it’s going to be gorgeous, congrats on finding your dress!! 

Post # 12
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Busy bee

Unless you have a very specific reason as to why you think the dress wouldn’t work, this sounds to me like just anxiety. Granted it was a long time ago, but now that I think about it, I did second guess my dress as well. The wedding dress styles had changed a lot from what I wanted. I wanted a ball gown with lace and bling. Ball gowns were hard if not impossible to find, and there wasn’t much embelishment the year I was looking, so I found a dress in a consignment shop. I chose it myself alone and later I showed it to my mother. She didn’t just shed a few tears, she broke out in hysterical sobbing because her baby was a bride, and nearly collapsed on the floor.

I don’t remember second guessing the dress exactly, but wondered if I should travel to new york to pick a dress at places like Kleinfelds to broaden my choices. This was before the show, but my mom’s friend asked us to come stay and look for a dress when she heard I was engaged. My  mom offered to take me and get another dress if I didn’t want my consignment shop find. She loved my dress too, but wanted me to know I had choices if I wanted.  I thought about it for a few days and decided that I loved my dress, and didn’t want another. Let alone one that would costs 1000s over the one I had. So I made sure I didn’t looke at another wedding magazine so I wouldn’t wonder about any of my wedding choices.

I admit that at times I wonder what would have happened if I had gone to new york to shop. But that’s more me regretting not having the trip and experience than ever regretting the dress itself. Sometimes I regret that we didn’t go for a bride weekend to new york, but I stand by the choice I made back then. I wore the right gown, and if I’d gone looking I would tempted myself and had major dress regret.

I hope you can post a picture of you in your dress at some point, but wouldn’t pass up the dress in the picture if I’d chosen it!

Post # 14
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

I think a lot of brides start to second guess their choice after they have bought the dress and spend a few months not seeing it. I know I had some regrets in that period but then once I put it back on for my fittings I remembered why I picked it.

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

Looks like a really pretty dress to me! I didn’t cry when I found mine, and I got it at the first store that I visited. I kind of forgot what it looked like/felt like, but once I tried it on for alterations, I thought, “Oh yeah, now I remember why I liked this dress.” I think it’s a good sign that everyone there liked it. I think you just have a lot of time to think about it since your wedding is a while away, so you might be overthinking just a tad. You will probably love it again once you start altering it. I think it’s just mainly stress. There’s so much to stress about with weddings, and new dresses come out all the time — but you have to settle on one (or two if you’re the change-after-the-ceremony kind of girl). smile

 

P.S. I hated dress shopping. It was so stressful and the dresses were so heavy and itchy. The one I picked was the first that didn’t feel like it weighed 100 pounds. laughing

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