(Closed) Anyone else dealing with divorced Future IL politics/culture differences?

posted 9 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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2765 posts
Sugar bee

It might help to talk about less intense subjects… just stuff like, what you’ve been up to lately and what you guys are planning to do this weekend?  Or let them take the lead on talking, and more just listen and respond to what they’re saying?

Post # 4
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Yea I agree w/ Mr. Bee… i think maybe you’re over-thinking? Just because they are a a different culture than you doesn’t mean that has to define who they are as people, or define your relationship with each other. You can always chat about what is going on with you, with school, your family, etc. You can also ask about their work, their vacation plans, their gardens, whatever. Keep it light.

 

as for dealing with the separated parents… oy. its kind of a hassle, no? my bf’s parents are divorced and we’re lucky that they live far, far away haha. my bf’s dad/step mom live in michigan, and his mom/step dad live in ny (we’re in ohio). So, that makes it somewhat easier.. but I’ll admit that I’m really worried about the wedding. I’m not sure how we’re really going to handle them because they do NOT get along at all. Do they make churches with 3 sides? haha. i think what we’re going to have to do is basically keep his parents separated and then split my family among them so that his family doesnt have to interact with each other. really though, i’d just let him take the lead on this. its his family and he probably knows best how to proceed.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

This has been a hassle for us, we do every holiday twice (sometimes three times if we visit my family).  His dad has even passed away and Mother-In-Law was not able to get over all the things from the past before our wedding and did not come because she couldn’t handle the other side of the family.  Her brother came and even said it was kind of ridiculous that she didn’t.  Anyway, split families are always tough to deal with and it sounds like you have more with the cultural backgrounds too.  Good luck

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