Post # 1
My husband and I just got a new condo, and I am learning that he had strong opinions about decorating…that aren’t always in line with my own. We have compromised on a few things, but we are still butting heads on everything from the couches to the bed linens. It’s a frustrating process!
Anyone else disagree with their guy about how to decorate your space? Any advice or stories?
Post # 3
@Valhalla: we definitely had differing opinions on certain things in our home. and as cliche as it is, it’s all about compromise. you have to give a lil and take a lil. i hate our kitchen table (inherited from his parents).. but it’s what we can afford to have right now (free). but we also did inherit their brand new dining set (15K) as well! …
we actually just purchased living room furniture over labor day weekend and spent all day searching… but finally walked out with something we both loved. he sacrificed on the sectional and i sacrificed on the size…
he wanted to finish the garage, i wanted to get granite countertops. we both sacrificed and decided to put in french doors to close off our den/office (something we both wanted) and put the other two projects on hold ’til later.
i know it can be frustrating at times, but it does get easier 🙂 just communicate!
Post # 4
Totally guilty of it here – – sometimes we have to stop ourselves becuase it gets so heated. FH is super modern and to me that look doesn’t say “welcome, relax, enjoy” is says “cold, uncomfortable, uptight” haahaahaa I am more of a contemporary plush interior. I don’t mind mind some mid century pcs to combo or even a couple of modern end tables or something to bring in either. But I DO NOT like any mide century or modern sitting pcs, and that I will not budge on. Good thing FH is beginning to slowly budge on the modern sitting pcs, haahaahaahaaa
Post # 5
Ooooohhhh yes. I recently found out that my Fiance loves just about everything I hate. From furniture to wall hangings…
We’re compromising by him having his own “man room” and I get to decorate the rest of the house. He can do whatever he wants to that room and he’s excited for it. Ha He’s easier to please than I am!
Post # 6
Uh, yes. That’s why I have a typical “bachelor pad” black leather couch taking up half my living room.
We’ll definitely be having a man-room if we ever have enough space.
Post # 7
We used to disagree, and it was very frustrating, so I just started doing what I wanted, and so far, he loves everything once it is in place. He just has a hard time picturing things. He loves how I have made our house into a home.
Post # 8
We have similar tastes and I just went with whatever paint he wanted to use for the walls (lot of neutral, muted tones) and then we compromised on furniture. He doesn’t care what accent pieces are in and around the huose – I do that on my own. Some things I don’t care about so I just go w/ the flow (he basically picked out our whole kitchen registry right down to the plates).
Post # 9
We have totally different tastes. He would go out and buy any cheap perfectly matched set if he could and that horrible kitchen table that he just loves. Every few months I just find some “great deal (wink)” and just show up with it (that’s why I choose to drive the truck and let him have the car). He ends up loving what I buy and even brags about the “deals” I get. I am redoing his horrible taste one piece at a time.
Post # 10
We actually have exactly the same tastes almost always! its really crazy lol…and when we don’t we’re both laid back enough that we can easily compromise. I am sooo thankful for this part being easy-isn’t the rest hard enough? 🙂
Post # 11
We have similar tastes, but he wanted a Coca-Cola red & black kitchen…I did not. I ended up giving in though because we started w/ a brown & light red couch. For our house-warming we received pictures & a clock for the living room w/ a lighter red on them. Our kitchen table is black, so the red, black & brown just kind of flows together. We ended up registering for all red appliances & I received red pots & pans for my shower. I figure if he’s willing to let me have a zebra print bathroom, I can handle a red & black kitchen.
Post # 12
Yes… we have a typically dumpy “academic nomad” apartment furnished in hand-me-down/salvage college chic presently, but I dread the day when I have to take a stand against the mounted deer heads. I suspect the man cave compromise.
Post # 13
My hubby is usually pretty easygoing with these things. We did have a little issue when picking out a new chair. Our old (ugly) one broke, so we went to get a new recliner. My hubby has back issues but all of the ones that are supportive and good for backs are ugly. Obviously I wasn’t going to make us get something bad for his health, so ugly it is.
He bought our place long before I was in the picture, so it was decorated all by him. He let me put up pretty much whatever I wanted, and he said I could take his stuff down. I did take some stuff down, but I don’t want to get rid of all of “him” in the house, so even though I don’t love it all it’s going to stay.
Post # 14
Maybe I’m lucky, lol, but my guy couldn’t care less about home decor. He leaves it all up to me and then says things look great. We both hate anything too modern and contemporary, so at least our tastes aren’t radically different. When we finally get a house I’d love for him to have his own “man-cave” because I’m sure he needs one room where it’s totally his to control. Knowing him, it will probably be decked out in sports paraphernalia.
Post # 15
Wait, that’s not my job to disagree??? He would just buy any furniture in any color because it comes in a package that includes a flat screen TV. Luckily, we have room for a man cave, where his ugly furniture is. The rest of the house will have his input (choose sofa A, B or C) but the final decision is mine. We don’t have any money for furniture right now so that has curbed a lot of arguments.
Post # 16
We have a constant color war! I love color – jewel tones, earth tones, unexpectd pops of color make me happy. My husband will inevitably choose beige or black. he can occasionally be persuaded to look at a cherrywood book case, but prefers everything in beige or black. I have taken to just appearing with small color accents (pillows, some art) and when he recently asked why I keep doing it I explained that it was my protest against his boring color choices! We’re working on it, but it’s still a sore spot for both of us!