Post # 1
In my head, I have had this dream wedding planned out for ages. I wanted tons of flowers up and down and everywhere in between. I wanted very unique cake flavors. A sit down dinner. Extemely nice favors. A HUGE projection screen showing pictures of us from childhood to adulthood.
But now we are actually booking our vendors and boy oh boy. Things are sure a lot more expensive than we thought. I splurged on my wedding dress, and now i have much less to spend on other things I thought I wanted. Sit down dinner is out the window. Favors are not worth spending a fortune on, so those have ridiculousy changed directions too. it was hard to go from my dream image in my mind to what we are actually doing.
BUT. I have come to love our real wedding more than any elaborate dream wedding I ever envisioned. It is so much more personal and really us. Not over the top and elaborate like i thought i wanted. Im glad simple and vintage is in right now though and I think a lot of my ideas are still unique and the food be really amazing! Is anyone else going from dream wedding price shock to realistic love?
Post # 3
I have to say I think many venues that cater for weddings are very over priced. Alot of the venues around where I am won’t talk to you if your guest list is below 100. I contact a local resort, and they said that they can certainly cater for a 40 person wedding. Not a problem at all. Oh but By The Way the mid week wedding minimum spent is $10,000 and saturday is $40000. BUT that can include the alcohol. ummmmmmmm…..yeah ok…..don’t call me, I’ll call you!!
Thats why we decided to have our post ceremony celebrations at home. We sunk in the into doing the changes into our backyard that we have been talking about doing for ages. And I am super excited about it.
I think you just need to find your compromises to make it work for you.
Post # 4
I hear ya! We are doing a wedding for 50 and I feel even that has become a crazy price and I am cutting everywhere and anywhere.
Post # 5
The weddings I have enjoyed most as a guest were the ones where the emotion and love between the couple was glowing and the small little touches that make a wedding special/unique to the bride & groom.
I was into all those details at my wedding, but the comments I got that meant most to me were not how beautiful the flowers were…what touched me and pleased me the most is when I heard how in love and happy we looked.
Now that you’ve accepted these small changes due to budget, It’s great you are still excited about your plans to make this day a beautiful expression of your love. That shows you know this wedding is more about that than anything else. 🙂
Post # 6
Yes, I have champagne tastes and a beer budget. I’m not so much disappointed (or at least not yet) as having to think more creatively about how we can make what we can afford the best it can be and still have it be my vision.
Post # 7
@Firie: In Ireland, it’s basically the same! If you are below hundred persons for a wedding, they will add like 300-400 euros extra (that makes it like 500-600 dollars I think?) for this, as well as charging extra for other stuffs. Some places won’t even talk to you or kindly decline your query. In Norway it is not like that happily enough, at least not where we’ve been looking.
Post # 8
I wanted a sit down dinner and open bar. I got laughed at real fast over that dream. But we substituted for hors d’oeuvres and a one hour open bar. We will be happy regardless! My problem is I have very expensive taste.
Post # 9
i can honeslty say that I am not… I keep putting the focus on the fact that I am marrying the man of my dreams…i don’t care that I can’t have a $40,000 wedding… it’s jsut a day, and i would rather not spend the $$ on a day, but rather things that will better our lives… just my own opinion tho.
Post # 9
I’m very happy with our choices, but I do wish a little bit that there was money for things that would be a little more “us” – our venue said they could hire a sushi chef or set up a raw bar, for example, two things we LOVE. But those choices just weren’t options for us.
Post # 10
There were some amazing venues in the area that i live… in the end I am getting a hometown wedding (because it is WAY cheaper). I still have a great venue that I am happy with and I have learned to settle and embrace the hometown wedding.
Post # 11
@katiee0707: I went through this too… I was really sad that I couldn’t have those drape things that you see in really fancy weddings… Then I got even more sad as we began to start cutting things out and still being wayyy over budget..then came the cutting of the guest list. And I was done. My venue seemed cheapest of all of the nice one in the area, but it was wayyy too much. We moved our wedding to Destination Wedding and it’s half of the cost as our wedding in town would be… Which is nice, but other financial issues have added even more of a strain, so that kind of stinks. I am just going to be happy with what we have =) I’m glad you’ve come to terms with it also =)
Post # 12
Ugh, apparently, I had no idea what things actually cost. Nor did I understand what the weddings I’ve been to lately cost either! Right down to the officiant, I’ve been having sticker shock that it’s no wonder why I’ve been looking up how to just get married by the JOP and forego any celebration at all!
Post # 13
Yes… And we are still getting a fairly decent priced wedding… Our venue is ridiculous.
Post # 14
I wanted to do open bar too, but there is no way we can do that! it’s as much as the food! So we are winning some and losing some I guess, but none of the other weddings we’ve been to have open bars and now we know why! FH did not understand the prices at first, and when I laid it all out for him he got ‘real’ real fast! I think the biggest shock to me was how much it can cost to just rent a place–unreal.
Post # 15
I suppose I was sad about cutting our guest list down, but I wasn’t willing to sacrafice the quality of wedding we wanted, so we just invited fewer people.