(Closed) Anyone Else DIYing Virtually Everything? Getting a little overwhelmed…. !

posted 8 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

You are growing your own flowers? Wow, hats off to you girl. Pls don’t take on too much to the point wher you aren’t able to enjoy the wedding though.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Lean on that help!  I think you wil be amazed at what your friends and family will be willing to help with.  But like plantains said, try not to take on too much.  It’s OK to throw money at problems to have other people solve them, instead of DIYing everything and driving yourself nuts.

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Do what’s comfortable for you and make good plans so you won’t be doing stuff last minute. I just asked my stepmom to print out the wording for the invitations just because I don’t want to deal with anything else.  It’s ok to ask if you need to but if you want to DIY then go for it! πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

It sounds like you are doing just fine!  With all that time, you’ll be able to have just what you want.  Just work step by step.  Since I have my own student loans to pay off we didn’t have a lot of money for my daughter’s wedding-and so each time she mentioned what she wanted, I did searches to try to find it for the very best price I could.  I found terrific bargains, and they had exactly what they wanted, and we didn’t have to take big loans out because I just focused on finding one thing at a time.  I found loads of great bargains.  If you want some help with where to find things feel free to send me an email.  πŸ™‚  Rhonda

Post # 7
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Honestly, it sounds like you’re taking on a lot.  I’m POSITIVE you can do it, but the key is to delegate, delegate and the delegate some more.  Actually pick people and make them in charge of certain tasks.  They can report to you with options and progress and that leaves you to do the things you have to do anyhow on your own/with your Fiance (like picking out wedding bands styles, etc.).

Also, I don’t know how comfortable you are with spreadsheets, but make sure you have an organization method (spreadsheet, physical file folders, etc.) and stick with it!  Even though you’re DIY’ing tons, you’re going to have to track expenses for the raw materials you have to buy and you need to set up an estimated budget to keep things in check.

Finally, give yourself a day or two or three to take a break from planning when you need it.  You do have loads of time and you sound pretty organized so I’m sure it’ll all come together on time and on budget. Smile

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: May 2010

My wedding is in 30 days, and I did everything myself too!  But here’s how I got my dream wedding for about a tenth of the cost:

(1) Make a plan… a to do list… and plan out each of those 17 months from now til the day.  At the beginning of each month, look at your 10 “to-dos” and they won’t be that overwhelming.

(2) Doing my own flowers too… but not growing them… kinda crazy girl!  You’ll stress yourself out way too much, like, what if they don’t turn out perfecT?  What if your flowers don’t grow in the right season?  What if one type of the flower looks great 2 weeks before your wedding, but then you go to pick them and they look crappy.  Do yourself a favor and buy them wholesale… there are cheap markets everywhere.  For my flowers, my first 3 quotes for my “vision” was $5900, $6850, and $5400.  I found all the supplies, flowers, etc. I needed for $1200 quoted at the local flower market.  No matter what your budget, you’ll save a ton and not overwhelm yourself with the actual growing of them.

(3) How are you going to cater your own wedding?  Who’s going to serve?  Who’s going to keep it all hot when you’re getting ready for the wedding?  You’ll also spend more because you’ll have to rent all the plates, silverware, etc. when it normally comes with the catering.  What’s your very little budget?  Because I’ll bet you could find a local cooking school with students who need a senior project.  (Taste test everything, get some good references, etc.) but that way you won’t have to go crazy.  You can pay them for the food, maybe a little bit for their time, and then spin it as “you do my wedding, I’ll give you a killer reference to kick off your career/ business/ name in the industry, etc.”

(4) Plan “craft dates” with all that supportive friends and family… .no more than once a month so they don’t go crazy… but then you’ll have lots of help for all those crafty things you need to do for the wedding.

(5)Writing the ceremony is so much fun.  I thought it would be the hardest part of my wedding, but it wasn’t .  I bought the “wedding ceremony planner” by judith johnson and it was wonderful… check it out at the library for free!

 

good luck!

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I would think it is overwhelming to consider organizing the day of, but with the other stuff, you’ve got the time. Make a list, then a schedule, and stick to it.

Also, seriously consider recruiting help for the big day.

Post # 11
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Wannabee

My daughter is also planning a rustic elegant wedding and we have picked up many items on craigslist and e-bay–we started an inventory of what we have and where we stored it so we are not buying more because we can’t remember if we have enough or can’t find it  Spreading out the purchases has been good for the budget and we are having a great time planning and creating personal items for her big day.

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