(Closed) Anyone else do all the cooking in the relationship?

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Who does the cooking in your relationship?

    It's all me and I'm fine with it.

    It's all me and I wish he would offer to cook every once in awhile.

    He's in charge of making dinner, I can't cook for the life of me.

    We like to cook together or take turns in the kitchen.

  • Post # 77
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I do 90% of the cooking, mostly because I’m a picky eater and don’t like half the stuff DH makes. And there’s nothing ever really wrong with t, it’s just not what I like. For example the other day he made dinner, made roast beef with mashed potatoes and gravy and everything. My favourite. Only he put coffee on the roast and made garlic mashed potatoes with chicken broth. I like my potatoes and roast beef the way my mom makes them! No coffee on the roast and plain mashed potatoes if there’s going to be gravy on them! He also has a tendency to put way too much salt and spice in things, like to the point where I can’t eat what he makes. We do even it out though, he takes the dogs for a walk while I make dinner, and helps me clean up the kitchen after!

    Post # 78
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

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    @Jewelieee:  LOL I am glad to hear that some yankees do appreciate catfish 😛 Funny that you mentioned collard greens. I made a mess of those that same night, with a nice chunk of fatback (think bacon on steroids) for flavoring, of course.

    Post # 79
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    Blushing bee

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    @Jewelieee:  I cook all our meals, I’m kinda a control freak in the kitchen, and I just flat out love cooking so it works for us. If we grill he does that but otherwise he just annoys me in the kitchen. The one time he tried in the kitchen we had a grease fire 😉

    Post # 80
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    Blushing bee

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    @sjhanddab2014:  sounds like my style of cooking 🙂 butter and bacon can make any meal delicious. I cook very southern too. I made a pot of collards Sunday, I love them with butter garlic onion and tons of bacon.  the key is to cook it in chicken stock slowly for like 4-5 hours. Plus a good dash of salt and pepper 

    Post # 81
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    Bumble bee

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    @Jewelieee:  I am one of those people that likes to cook, so I do 95% of the cooking. Fiance cleans up. I literally leave everything in the sink to soak, and he takes care of it. It is a system that works out for both of us, especially since I get home 1-2 hours before he does. He is sort of a mess in the kitchen and quite frankly, just gets in my way.

    Post # 81
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: February 2017

    I cook and my boyfriend only knows how to make an egg scrambled and french toast. He does help out with cleaning up before and after and doing the dishes and such but I get frustrated every once in a while. Mostly when I am tired and he starts hinting for me to start cooking I get super annoyed. I try and stay positive and just think in my head that I enjoy the food more when I cook it and one day I will have kids to cook for as well so this is preparation. lol

    Post # 82
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    For the most part, I do all of the cooking. However, he joins me in the kitchen for conversation – he’ll sometimes work on laundry [our laundry room is next to the kitchen], or do dishes, or just get me things I need from the cabinets.

    He’ll sometimes take it upon himself to make us snacks during the day, though.

    Post # 83
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I’m a great believer in splitting tasks around particular skills but I truly think I’d have huge problems being married to, or living with, a man who simply couldn’t cook. It’s a basic skill! Which is why both my sons were taught to cook long before they left for college. So I often wonder how these guys who can’t cook ever thought they might live independently. Or perhaps they always assumed it was “wimmins’ work”?

    My DH is a very good cook. Unfortunately he has nerve damage in his hands which currently makes it very risky for him to cook because he couldn’t tell if he was burning himself. I also work mainly from home which means it is easier for me to shop and prepare meals whereas he’s out at work every day. I don’t feel oppressed by the need to cook every day but equally, we also enjoy eating out.

    I guess that if your DH pulls his weight around the house in other ways then the situation isn’t too dire. But I’d certainly encourage him to learn to cook. 

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