(Closed) Anyone else doing a wedding raffle?

posted 5 years ago in DIY
Post # 35
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Honey bee

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betellingoflove :  Im not being rude, I’m being honest. It’s rude to charge wedding guests money to win a prize- it’s not a carnival. 

Post # 36
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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betellingoflove :  I know you are not happy with the responses, but you now know that the general concensus is that a raffle at a wedding is inappropriate.

If you decide to go ahead and do it anyway, fine. The Bees have let you know what kind of rection to expect from your guests,so you won’t be surprised.

Do keep in mind though, that many people may be horrifed but won’t tell you to your face. Just because they don’t talk to you doesn’t mean they aren’t talking about you. They may be polite enough to keep their thoughts to themselves.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

You said it’s not about money but now if you dont charge you won’t be giving away your DIY decor.

 

Post # 40
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Helper bee

Oh my.  I’m not one to bash on honeyfunds, like many of the people on this site.  I would rather give via honeyfunds than spend my time selecting, buying, wrapping a gift and lugging it there.  I’ve given via honeyfunds a couple of times now.

However, a raffle at a wedding is something I’ve never heard of and would not recommend.  I would feel very uncomfortable as a guest attending a wedding with a raffle. (Feel pressured into participating, feel awkward if not enough people participated, etc.)

Post # 42
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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betellingoflove :  Stop engaging if you are so upset you’re only making this situation worse. To close your thread it should be in the botton left corner near where it says trust score it will say close. If you are still having problems flag your own post and let a moderator know you do not want it open and are not going o come back to weddingbee or reply and they will close it for you. I have flagged it for you saying you wanted it closed but I am not sure if it wil be closed. 

Post # 43
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Worker bee

OP, just something to chew on: 

My grandmother gave out scratch off lottery tickets for literally every special occasion. She died right before I got married. As a nod to her, I gave every guest a scratcher in a little glassine envelope with a sticker that said “Lucky in Love” and a note about its significance to my G’ma. As a joke, in like 3 pt. font on the bottom, I wrote “Fine Print: All winners should proceed directly to the bride and groom to discuss prize money division.” With a smiley face. (Another of my G’mas signature moves, btw, ending notes or letter with a smiley. Or puttting a smiley sticker on your presents…)

I am divorced… and waiting to get married again… and former guests STILL TALK ABOUT HOW I “DARED” TO GIVE A GIFT AND THEN WANT IT BACK. I kid you not. I realize that they are (mostly) joking as they didnt realize WE were joking but they STILL bring it up. 12. Years. Later.

Just a note to share that sometimes people’s perceptions overshadow your intentions. Especially at a wedding when you are silently judged against whats expected and “acceptable.”

But IT’S YOUR DAY! Do you! I did and…..My G’ma would have laughed at the drama!

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Post # 44
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Honey bee

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betellingoflove :  Dude, you need to chill. People think your idea is rude because it is (and yes, I’d say exactly that to any friend who asked my opinion). Stop being so defensive and realize that maybe you had a crap idea. Talking about how you’re crying and throwing up is manipulative and immature. No one thinks you’re bad or atrocious, so maybe take a step back and rethink your approach. 

Post # 45
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I can’t speak for <u>ClaudiaKishi :</u>, but if I had a family member comtemplating something as rude as what you are, I would absolutely tell them. I’d rather save them that embarrasment than go through with it and have everyone at the wedding thinking terrible things about them!

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