Post # 1
I have been stressing for the past year thinking i need to find a theme…and i did find one, i say one i mean several. I just kept swapping and changing my mind and everyone kept asking me what my theme was and i just kept thinking of different ones because mine didn’t seem good enough.
Well i have decided to do away with themes and make it all about us, there were just so many things i wanted in this wedding that i am just going to stop making it about having a certain theme and I’m just making it about us.
I couldn’t be happier, everything is coming together alot better now and although it’s a massive mish-mash of dinosaurs,hearts,polkadots and superheros it’s perfect because it’s us.
Anyone else not sticking with a theme
Post # 3
We are going to City Hall and tying the knot, just the two of us. There is no theme, although perhaps it could be “marriage”. Go figure.
Post # 4
Our theme is “finally getting married”.
Post # 5
Ditto. The theme of my wedding reception was “getting married.”
Post # 6
I remember every vendor asking me about my theme. It never even occurred to me to have a theme. The theme was “wedding.”
It’s not necessary. If you want to have a 1920’s gala and that’s been your dream since you got engaged, then cool. But if you just have a nice wedding that doesn’t make you a bad bride.
Post # 7
@nearly-mrs-R: We’re not having any sort of theme at all. Just pretty flowers. 🙂
Post # 8
@nearly-mrs-R: When I was pre-planning (as in, had a fantasizing about my wedding before I was engaged) I KNEW I wanted a very heavy literary theme. I even imagined finding a library or bookstore to get married in. Once I actually was engaged, though, I wanted to incorporate a lot of other ideas that didn’t fit the “theme”. So yeah… now the theme is “We’re getting married and here’s shit we like” which includes books but also lots of other things.
I think themes are helpful when you need to focus because there are just toooooo many ideas, but the pinteresty wedding blog land has made it way too “important”.
Post # 9
I’m not a fan of themes… It’s a wedding not a charity gala !
Post # 10
Our theme was “getting married” and then we did some stuff that we loved, even though it may not have “went together”. It was beautiful and perfect 🙂
Post # 11
@nearly-mrs-R: No particular theme for us either! Although where i’m from, a ‘theme’ isn’t that common.
The only real thing i’ve noticed as ours comes together is that it will be fairly formal and i’ve mostly gone with black and white with some very small touches of pink and gold here and there. Ours will be very ‘us’ which is the most important thing in my opinion 🙂
Post # 12
I never really embraced any themes. I dunno, it sort of felt like it trivialized the event to assign it a theme and give it those limitations. I selected a color scheme and tried to keep decor elements simple and elegant, sophisticated, and complimentary of each other. I guess u could call that a theme in itself, but I really didn’t plan with a theme in mind other than my colors.
Post # 13
@nearly-mrs-R: I’m so over themes. When I told my florist I didn’t have one she was so happy apparently she’s been doing a lot of burlap and lace this year.
Post # 14
Every time someone hears I don’t have a theme or colors they get all wide-eyed and uncomfortable. Why do I need to do all that? I just want to go and have fun!
Post # 15
I think themes are a helpful way for your wedding coordinator and vendors to focus on certain elements such as colors, fabrics, details that, sometimes, without a theme can go haywire. I’ve found that having a subtle “theme” has been an easy way to keep my thoughts focused and I won’t have any panicked moments later down the line where I freak out wondering if everything matches and goes together.
I do agree, though, that I hate matchy-matchy themes, as in say, a beach theme, where everything is sea shells and starfish and blue and on the beach and blah blah blah. My SO and I have several themes kind of mushed together that can best be described as whimsical/eccentric. I happen to like mismatched, so I’m fine. But having those few “themes” in mind is helpful as I start collecting mismatched things.
My sister didn’t have a theme and it was honestly the most gorgeous wedding I’ve ever been to! So, themes are not necessary and I do agree that people have been taking them either too literal or way over the top over the past few years.
Post # 16
No theme here. We are having a low key small wedding. Fancy and understated. We’re even going with an all inclusive resort and are happy to choose from their lists for everything from cake to location to dinner menu.