(Closed) Anyone else done with themes?

posted 7 years ago in Reception
Post # 17
13373 posts
Honey Beekeeper



“So it should surprise no one that she has taken the white gloves off and come out swinging. “Miss Manners’ Guide to a Surprisingly Dignified Wedding,” …….. tries to get couples back to the basics, stressing that a meaningful wedding need not be an over-the-top menagerie, put anyone in debt or require a theme.

There’s already a theme, and it’s marriage.”


Post # 18
3315 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

We didn’t have a theme, or even colors.  I’m pretty sure that didn’t impair the legality of our marriage.

Post # 19
2966 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

My theme is ‘We are married, lets stuff our bellies and dance till our feet hurt with as many family members and friends as we can afford around us’

My colours are vaguely peacock inspired jewel tones, because I don’t want any actual peacock feathers anywhere, but I love teals, blues, greens, and purples. Probably with some antique gold or bronze for an accent / some contrast. I don’t want an actual peacock theme though.

Post # 20
2211 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My fiance keeps asking me what the theme of our wedding is.  And I keep telling him we don’t need one…


Post # 21
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I think there is nothing wrong with having a theme but at the same time its not completely vital for a wedding!

Really at the end of the day the theme is Ms. X and Mr. Y’s WEDDING. 

It can be very nice when you see some details throughout a wedding that are all tied to a common theme but I have also been to weddings where its just too much.

Its like they decided “I love horses” and next thing you know there are horses as centerpieces, horse cocktails, horses on all the paper products, the bartenders are dressed up as horses, the bride and groom ride down the aisle on horses, etc etc etc…

This happens waaaay too often if you ask me, just look on pinterest.

Post # 22
7980 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Proms have themes.  I really don’t think weddings need to.

Post # 23
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We didn’t have a theme either, I did have an overall look I was going for – I wanted things to be simple and romantic.  It wasn’t a specific theme but it helped me focus on a range of colors (not just two!) and things to incorporate. 

I really dislike when everything is very matchy matchy.  I feel like themes are very old-fashioned.  Just do whatever you like!  It will be beautiful no matter what.

Post # 24
25 posts
  • Wedding: April 2014

Our theme is way over the top Magic Kingdom.  I hate when people go crazy over a color and it look like royal blue puked all over the room. My basic idea is that I want people to show up and see the wedding and think ‘this is a beautiful wedding’ and then they pay attention to the details and they see all the Disney.

A color pallete might be a better wat to go instead of a theme or 1 particular color.

if mine didnt have the Disney the pallete would be blue, cream, pink, and sparkle. Blue and/or pink are tricky because the room can become very baby shower very quickly. Just keep it in check and dont go too trendy. yes it’s 1 day, but it’s also in pictures forever.

Post # 25
2890 posts
Sugar bee

@nearly-mrs-R:  We’ve just changed from a winter to a summer theme, and I don’t know what we’ll do.

I wasn’t inspired by ”winter wonderland” themes as they were all in cold colors (accents of blue everywhere) and I didn’t feel it represented us. Red as an accent color was another obvious choice, but way too Christmassy for us, especially since we were so close from the Holiday (early January), we didn’t want our guests to feel as though they were attending their 15th Holiday party. We eventually sat watching Narnia on TV and that’s where I had like an illumination, and decided this would make a fantastic theme ! I didn’t really care if people wouldn’t know the movie or couldn’t tell from the decor it was from that movie, I really just saw it as a guideline to a decor that was great for winter, and wasn’t too conventional either. It felt more like ”us”. 

Now, we’ve postponed our wedding to August, to it changes our decor significantly. I have no idea where to start. Which colors. Which decor. What represents ”us”. I really need some kind of guideline though. It might not be a specific theme per se, but I really like when there’s an idea that makes everything harmonious, and that you can illustrate it through different pictures. Even if just a color, I like ”themes” because they tell a story and that’s pretty much what most pictures today (non-traditional) want to show. 

Post # 26
679 posts
Busy bee

Themes make me laugh sometimes. Whenever I hear the word “theme” I think of the line in a Christmas Story where Ralphie is in his classroom and his teacher tells them they are writing a theme. Some themes req such specific aesthetics and unless you have a budget that’s 50k or above, it’s really hard to do it right and not be cheap looking.


Post # 27
5217 posts
Bee Keeper

View original reply
@MrsPHopefully:  I think a Christmas Story wedding theme would be good. The groomsmen can carry bb guns and the brides maids can wear heels and stockings like the leg lamp. The ring bearer would, of course, have to be in a tacky pink bunny suit. Dinner can be chinese goose with the head still on it, LOL.

I think themes can be cute when done right. I really wanted an Alice in wonderland theme. No go with DH.

Post # 28
679 posts
Busy bee

View original reply
@Bridey77:  a christmas story theme would be so awesome. My family would get such a kick out of it. Too bad SO has never seen  the movie…


Post # 29
616 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@nearly-mrs-R:  yup- I had the same problem. I decided to tie things together with the color palette and now it’s much easier. The “themes” we are having are books, photography, a nod to anime and art, and british culture because my fiance is English. So we don’t have one theme, it’s just lots of stuff we like!

Post # 30
463 posts
Helper bee

YES! I love this thread!!

When I got engaged, I knew I loved Deco influences–so I thought I was going to have an “Art Deco” wedding, which I have been a fan of long before they became popular and trendy. As my fiance and I started to dive into wedding planning, I realized that particular elements kept recurring over and over, and I got sick of seeing them, after a while. (Feathers, and black and white geometric shapes make me want to vomit.) I realize now, that my wedding isnt going into a theme, rather theres some elements I like that are being incorperated into my wedding, and if they span from parisian, and old world to the jazz age and art deco, thats fine! 🙂

So whats my theme? My theme is wedding.

Post # 31
2092 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

@nearly-mrs-R:  I was trying to come up with fun theme ideas to represent my Fiance and I as a couple. A few of my ideas were: 

Love birds– we have a pet bird and get called love birds a lot

Vineyard theme–DIY cork decor and grape decor since we are having a vineyard wedding

Movie theme–decorate all the tables and name them after different movies since we are both major movie buffs

But ultimatly, I think we’ve decided on a nature theme which is basically no theme. We are having an outdoor ceremony and plan to have some really interesting flowers. May have a lavender toss and a sprig of lavender or rosemary on each place setting. But as for little trinkets or special decorations, forget it. Who has time for that these days? And what do you do with it all in the end? We will just stick to incorporating flowers and plants and lots of nice outdoor photos… Not even sure if you can call that a theme, but if someone asks I just say it’s nature themed. I don’t think people will really notice or remember those things anyway. I think they will notice more about the good food, amazing scenery, incredible wine, and the fun they have.

The topic ‘Anyone else done with themes?’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors