(Closed) Anyone else dread hanging out with friends?

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Buzzing bee

I’m pretty introverted so I understand what you mean. Although I still make an effort to talk with them weekly.

 

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I admit there are definitely times I’d much rather be at home, but I love spending time with my friends. I work so much during the week that a nice weekend lunch, pedicure, patio sit with one of my girlfriends is always a great change!

Maybe you’re just more of an introvert, or need new friends that you are interested in.
Honestly, I wouldn’t want to spend time with someone who has “no interest” in my life. Not trying to be snarky or anything, just the truth.

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

you sound like a homebody which isn’t healthy… I think you should get out and see your friends sometimes it helps with maintaining your friendship.. I love seeing my friends and I like having a girls night out.. My fiances friend’s  wife is sorta being anti social not involved in things and expects her husband to stay home with her 24/7 and she gets pissed when he goes out with his friends mean while she got an invitation to go but refuses to be any kind of social…. I would just try not to let things get to that point because it can damper your relationship.. I just don’t think its a good thing avoiding your friends and wanting to stay home.. But to each there own…. 

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

VintageGirl1020:  My fiances wife? Can you explain that?

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

woops error my fiances friends wife!!!! typo!!! lol 

julies1949:  

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I’m the same way. It’s not that I dislike hanging out with my friends, I just like hanging out at home doing my own thing better. I’m very much a homebody and I’ve been that way since high school (in my early 30’s now). My close friends have all known me for at least 10-20 years, so it isn’t new to them and they don’t take it personally. I’m just not someone who enjoys being out all the time. I do try to go out with my friends at least 2-3 times a month, but I generally like to be home way more. 

Post # 8
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Newbee

I dont think it’s necessarily unhealthy to be a homebody. Maybe you are outgrowing your friends. Or maybe your interests are changing. Is this normal for you? Have you always been this way or were you really social before?

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I could have pretty much written this post verbatim. It’s probably either an unhealthy manifestation of some sort of phychological issue or maybe just a character flaw. In either case …meh. I think maybe I’m just a douche, but I’m ok with it.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

 

VintageGirl1020:  I was trying to figure out how your Fiance could have a wife.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2016

As long as your okay with your husband having friends and don’t disattach friendships that has with his friends i think its fine but he may feel bad leaving you to be with his friends so its a catch 22….. 

Post # 12
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Worker bee

I can relate with not being excited about plans. For me it comes down to having a limited amount of energy. In college I loved hanging out with friends every night but now after a long day at work I just want to go home and put on my sweatpants. As an introvert even talking on the phone at night is draining for me.

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

julies1949:  haha totally!! no worries I always seem to make typos on there and im like XD!!! woops!!! i fixed it! thanks for pointing it out i would have not noticed till later haha 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I have a friend who acts kind of like how you described. I don’t really try too hard to keep in touch with her anymore. I have plenty of real friends who I love to keep in touch with and spend time with! I agree with PP, maybe you’re just super introverted. But you also sound kind of rude. Do those friends of yours a favor and stop pretending to care. Just be honest! Say, “Sorry I’d rather just stay in today.” You aren’t doing anyone a favor by pretending to give 2 shits about anything to do with them.

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I like seeing my friends on occasion but i don’t completely avoid them when they ask to do something… I see them maybe once every other week which is a lot less than what i use to see them when i was in my early 20’s but I don’t ever dread it…. 

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