Post # 61
anonymousbee12321: I can totally relate to point number 1. Maybe this has already been mentioned, but do you have a lot of friends/acquaintances? I basically have one BFF, so I am able to devote most of my “friend energy” to one person outside of family. I have a few acquaintances/coworkers/etc I’m friendly with, but don’t hang out with outside of work, and a couple long time friends I see a few times a year. Maybe you just have too many people demanding your attention?
Post # 62
Bf and I both prefer our own and each other’s company. We prefer to sit at home but we’re happy to message our friends or chat with them online. Going out in our area, we have to be careful of getting robbed or struggle to find parking or engage with beggars (we have a LOT of that and a LOT of them fake injuries (arms tucked into shirts to pretend they’re amputee’s..honestly)) and it’s just easier to stay home. We have a really comfortable home and we’re happy their.
If either one of us wants to go out, we do. Now and then we’ll have a friend over.
My sister on the other hand has her friends sleep over all the time (they have a lot of room) and she hates being alone. I don’t think it’s unhealthy to be anti-social on a physical level any more than it’s unhealthy to be social on a physical level – to each their own.
If you don’t enjoy something, it’s okay. If you’ve made plans, stick to them. Or if someone wants to make plans but you really don’t feel like it, arrange for another time way in the future.
Also, There are maybe only 2 friends I have that I genuinely don’t mind having in my space. The one requires a LOT of my energy and I can only have her over for a short period, the other one is completely on my level and doesn’t drain me. It may be worth while to see if you can find a friend or two (new) that you really really click and look forward to seeing. I know you said you look forward to seeing the others but never really want to when it comes down to it, but see then if you can find someone who doesn’t make you feel that way?
But yeah it’s okay. You’re not alone.