Post # 1
I have been feeling so frustrated for the last few days, particularly because I have been engaged for 2 years, together for 10, and we are STILL not planning our wedding! We have tried to plan and had to postpone a few times, for good reason, but now it seems nearly impossible to get back at it.
Sometimes I just feel stupid when us being engaged comes up. Like there is an expiry date and he needs to ask again.
Just wondering if there are any other ladies out there in the same sort of situation. Engaged for a while, but still no definite wedding plans.?
Post # 3
We’re married now, but we were engaged for a whole year before we started planning the wedding. We decided to focus on buying a house first, but people did constantly ask us whether we had set a date yet! Don’t feel dumb about it, it sounds like you had good reasons to postpone and sometimes life just makes more sense in a different order.
Why does it feel impossible to get back into it now? For me, after we had settle into our new house for a month or two there came a point where I just thought ok, it’s finally time to start planning. I started looking up venues online and visiting some, and things carried on from there!
Post # 4
We’re not doing any real solid planning, as we haven’t set a date yet. It’s mostly just me collecting inspiration pics and hoarding all the blue and lavender things that I buy. We talk about the wedding in general terms but we’re not actually dealing with vendors and wedding party at the moment.
Post # 5
I know what you mean I feel like wedding is never going to happen because there are always “more important” things we need to be spending our money on… I have been looking at everything and have 90% of everything planned… But I know what you mean by it seeming impossible to start actually doing everything.
Post # 6
We aren’t getting married until October 2013. I feel so uncomfortable when people ask me if we’ve set a date because it’s so far away. The reasons are really personal, so it’s not something I can just tell everyone. I’m perusing websites and gathering ideas, but I wish it was sooner.
Post # 7
I’ve been engaged for coming up two years next month. I did absolutely NO planning for over a year, and to be honest I could have waited a couple months more. I just…kinda woke up one day and realized it was time. We started with venue and photographer and now the ball is rolling so we’re being super careful with the money aspect.
Hopefully you get back into it soon! <3
Post # 8
Thanks for posting ladies. I was really starting to think I was the only one.
It has been hard to watch others get engaged, married and have children within these two years when we hardly get the time to even discuss it. With work, finances, life and the possibility of moving always up in the air, we never get around to arranging it. Like @MsPanda: said, it always seems there is something more important or imminent that pops up… and still, something else has just come up. Ugh…
So many brides get engaged and set a date right away and off with the planning they go. How I wish that had been me.
Thanks for your comments and your stories, I felt a twinge of relief when I saw some replies.
Post # 9
I am in the same boat. By the time I get married we will have been engaged for 3years and 1 month. I too had the feeling like it was never going to happen. We bought a home and are finishing up school which is what caused most of the delay. Hang in there and remember the best things in life are worth the wait : )
Post # 10
My best friend has been engaged for almost two years and they still haven’t decided which country they will get married in! 🙂
Post # 11
Mr M proposed on 11-5-10. For the first few months I was actively planning but once realty set in with prices and budget, we decided to wait to plan anything. We’ve been together for 3 years.. We’re thinking about eloping to Key West this November.
Everyone asks us also when the date is. Don’t feel like you need to hurry and pick something. When it comes down to it, the wedding is only about the two of you and the love you share for eachother. 🙂
Post # 12
We did nothing at all for the first probably six or seven months? Just set a date like 2 weeks ago. Lol. It just hasn’t been a priority with all that’s going on so I feel you there. The best way to get back into it, for me, was actually to not think about it for several weeks. I didn’t get on weddingbee much for 3 weeks or so and still am not back to how regularly I WAS posting. I didn’t even think about it for that time after setting the date and now I’m slowly getting into the details. Sort of. I looked at the countdown calendar thingy and started making lists. I work best with a list of set things to do.
Post # 13
@Evie19: This seems like our situation. We are living in a different country from my whole family and part of his. So choosing the country is a huge issue for us. I know that only a few of my relatives and/or a few of his can make it, whichever country we have it in.
@AmeliaBedelia: I did stop the wedding stuff for a few months actually, but I am starting to feel like it is time to get back at it. Of course when I say, ‘When, where?’ to Fiance, he says, ‘This summer babe, wherever you want!’…. Yeah thanks. Real helpful. Like 2 months notice is enough for people to fly across the world. Pff… He then goes on to do absolutely nothing in the way of planning and I don’t hear about it again until I bring it up-again! So frustrating!
@jlcadm: Everytime someone asks us when we are having the wedding, I literally start to feel ill.
Post # 14
I am engaged, but not actively planning. I want to graduate nursing school first, (which will be May 2012) and I have to have heart surgery, and they wanna do it right after I graduate school. You’re not alone!