(Closed) Anyone else Engaged but not actively wedding planning?

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
293 posts
Helper bee

We’re married now, but we were engaged for a whole year before we started planning the wedding. We decided to focus on buying a house first, but people did constantly ask us whether we had set a date yet! Don’t feel dumb about it, it sounds like you had good reasons to postpone and sometimes life just makes more sense in a different order.

Why does it feel impossible to get back into it now? For me, after we had settle into our new house for a month or two there came a point where I just thought ok, it’s finally time to start planning. I started looking up venues online and visiting some, and things carried on from there!

Post # 4
849 posts
Busy bee

We’re not doing any real solid planning, as we haven’t set a date yet. It’s mostly just me collecting inspiration pics and hoarding all the blue and lavender things that I buy. We talk about the wedding in general terms but we’re not actually dealing with vendors and wedding party at the moment.

Post # 5
4653 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I know what you mean I feel like wedding is never going to happen because there are always “more important” things we need to be spending our money on… I have been looking at everything and have 90% of everything planned… But I know what you mean by it seeming impossible to start actually doing everything.

Post # 6
27 posts
  • Wedding: September 2013

We aren’t getting married until October 2013. I feel so uncomfortable when people ask me if we’ve set a date because it’s so far away. The reasons are really personal, so it’s not something I can just tell everyone. I’m perusing websites and gathering ideas, but I wish it was sooner.

Post # 7
1684 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’ve been engaged for coming up two years next month. I did absolutely NO planning for over a year, and to be honest I could have waited a couple months more. I just…kinda woke up one day and realized it was time. We started with venue and photographer and now the ball is rolling so we’re being super careful with the money aspect. 

Hopefully you get back into it soon! <3

Post # 9
181 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I am in the same boat. By the time I get married we will have been engaged for 3years and 1 month. I too had the feeling like it was never going to happen. We bought a home and are finishing up school which is what caused most of the delay. Hang in there and remember the best things in life are worth the wait : )

Post # 10
6065 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

My best friend has been engaged for almost two years and they still haven’t decided which country they will get married in! 🙂


Post # 11
139 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

Mr M proposed on 11-5-10. For the first few months I was actively planning but once realty set in with prices and budget, we decided to wait to plan anything. We’ve been together for 3 years.. We’re thinking about eloping to Key West this November.

Everyone asks us also when the date is. Don’t feel like you need to hurry and pick something. When it comes down to it, the wedding is only about the two of you and the love you share for eachother. 🙂

Post # 12
6892 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

We did nothing at all for the first probably six or seven months? Just set a date like 2 weeks ago. Lol. It just hasn’t been a priority with all that’s going on so I feel you there. The best way to get back into it, for me, was actually to not think about it for several weeks. I didn’t get on weddingbee much for 3 weeks or so and still am not back to how regularly I WAS posting. I didn’t even think about it for that time after setting the date and now I’m slowly getting into the details. Sort of. I looked at the countdown calendar thingy and started making lists. I work best with a list of set things to do.

Post # 14
26 posts
  • Wedding: June 2012

I am engaged, but not actively planning. I want to graduate nursing school first, (which will be May 2012) and I have to have heart surgery, and they wanna do it right after I graduate school.  You’re not alone!

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