Post # 1
Hi bees, I am engaged to a wonderful man…I am 31 and he is 47. Most of the time I don’t notice an age difference at all – in fact I think I am more mature! In the beginning, I had to help my Mum to see that the relationship was genuine, but everyone is on board now (thank goodness). My partner makes me feel like every decision I ever made was the right one as he likes me exactly as I am. Sometimes I get sad that I might be a little old lady without him – maybe for as long as 20 years :-(. I would love to hear from other bees either significantly younger/older than their partner. What makes it work for you?
Post # 2
I am engaged to a man 20 years old then me, I am 30 and he is 50. We have been together for over 6 years, I think he is the best man I have ever known. He is a true gentleman, knows how to dress, treats me like a lady, is dependable, respectful, honest. If you ever seen the movie The Thin Man he looks a lot like William Powell who is in my avatar and dresses like an old fashioned gentleman too, always has on a tie and hat. I have some health issues ( fibromyalgia and MS) and he is always there to take of me when ever I need it! I think age is just a number!
Post # 3
ne11y23: I am married to a man 17 years older than me. I’m 36 and he is 53. We are getting ready to celebrate our 7 anniversary.
We met in an internet chatroom. We started talking on the phone St. Patricks day of 2007. After a whirlwind 12 weeks, we eloped 🙂 I’ve never been happier. I’m planning a vow renewal for next year. That is how I ended up on WB.
We never notice the age difference, and couldn’t care less if anyone else does 😉
Post # 4
I have always dated older men. My last boyfriend was 37 and I was 25. My fiance is 36 and I’m 28 (which isn’t a drastic gap at all). The one before that was like 38 when I was 23. In fact, since I’ve been out of college (at 21) I’ve never dated someone in their 20’s. They just seem so…young. Hah! A good friend of mine is 25 and she is married to a surgeon who is 45. If it works, it works!
Post # 5
Yup. My FI is 26 years older than me. He’s a total silver fox.
Post # 6
ne11y23: Yup! I never thought I’d date a much older man, he’s 15 years older than me. I’m the same way, though. I worry I’ll be a little old lady without him and I’m closer to that than you are (I’m older)! But then I think, you know, I could get hit by a bus tomorrow so you can’t live your life on what ifs. We laugh all.the.time!
Post # 7
ne11y23: My FI is close to 20 years older than I am. We have similar interests, energy levels, our outlook on life, values, sense of humor, taste in movies, food…. We both consider ourselves to be the luckiest people in the world to have found each other. We treasure every day. We don’t see age as a factor at all, and our friends and family don’t either. It’s all good.
Post # 8
My husband is 40 and I will be 32 in May. He treats me like a princess and he is my rock. I’ve always had a preference for men who were older than me.
Post # 9
I briefly courted with a man 17 years my senior. It didn’t work out and was very brief, but neither of us felt discomfort with the age gap despite my looking younger than I am.
Post # 10
ne11y23: On our wedding day I will be 33 and he will be 51. We have been together for over 3yrs and he treats me with respect and trust. This is by far the best relationship I’ve even been in!! He has 4 kids and I’m only 2 yrs older than his oldest child. It took them awhile to accept, but I kept my distance and didn’t push or expect their approval. (They wanted their Dad happy) Once they saw how happy and good we are together, we all have a great relationship. He has 2 grandsons and I’m childless. I would never have thought this would be my life, but I must say I wouldn’t change one second of it. I’m truly blessed.<br />
Post # 11
I’m very happy to see this thread 🙂
I will be 32 when we get married next year, FI will be 53. I know it looks a lot to people who have never met either of us hence why I haven’t spoken about our true age gap on the bee before but it works for us…
We’ve been together for 9 years so it’ll be 10 years when we get married and this is definitely not something we’re entering in to lightly. We are well aware of the issues we may face in the future and neither of us set out to find an older/younger partner but you really can’t help who you fall in love with!
A lot of people who don’t know us find it hard to believe how well we get on but we’ve lived together for 8 years and have so much in common. Fortunately, both our families are amazingly supportive and just want us to be happy. I don’t want children of my own but FI has two sons (now in their 20’s) and we all have a great relationship – I’m not trying to be a ‘stepmom’, I’m more like a friend to them.
Age is most definitely just a number and i’d rather have 20 happy years with the love of my life than 40 or 50 years with someone the same age who I’m not as compatible with!
Post # 12
I’m closer in age to my step kids than I am to my husband, LOL. Everyone was negative about our marriage at first, but now that they see how good it is, they are supportive. Are either of you planning for children? We tried for a baby right after we got married. It took us 8 months to conceive, but I ended up losing it. I decided I can’t go through that again. My husband would have been 49 when the baby was born, but he just felt like a new baby would keep him young.
Post # 13
ne11y23: I’m 34 and my FI is 46. I used to think that the whole age matters less when you get older was a myth, then I met me FI. We just seem to fit perfectly together. I think it helps when you agree on the big things (esp. having, or in our case not having children). The only problem I have is the occassional nightmare that I will outlive him, I just concentrate on enjoying our life together and not think about that.
Post # 14
ne11y23: I was waiting for a thread like this one!
I meet my guy when I was 22 and he was 36. Now we are planning to be wed in July, I’ll be 28 and he will be 42. Age was never an issue for me, I felt more comfortable with some one older and our relationship is such a breeze. I couldn’t have imagined anyone else more perfect for me!
Post # 15
Wow!! I am so happy I started this thread!! So many positive stories. I feel so happy you have all found joy with a man who treats you so beautifully. I will try my best to stop feeling fear about the future and will endeavour to just enjoy each day as it comes. I wish you all very happy unions. Cherish each other 🙂 xxxxx