Post # 1
I feel blessed that I receive my fiance’s aunt’s bridal ring set (2 diamond bands and a round solitaire w/ pave diamonds on the band). This is almost unheard of where i come from for a girl as young as i am to have a ring so….intricate. It kind of annoys me when ppl say “it’s sooo huge.” well, i think it’s loaded with sentimental value, it’s an antique, AND it’s amazingly sparkily. i just feel uncomfortable. What am i supposed to say to a comment like that? “yeah, i know.” so i politely brush it off and they think i under appreciate it.
I’m sorry for saying this. I hope i don’t get any unpleasant comments, i just needed to have another venting session! lol.
also, i don’t like sharing hw my fiance proposed to me. I am a very private person and consider it an event that should be kept between two ppl and close family. I haven’t even told my mother how, just that we are. I usually come up with a very vague story for ppl that are persistent. Am i alone in this way of thinking.
once again, i’m sorry for venting!
Post # 4
Just say “Thanks! It was handed down, I feel really lucky.” You come off as gracious and grateful.
Post # 5
Sometimes I think people don’t realize they’re crossing a line. They’re curious and if they’re single, they’re probably just excited. Maybe just say, “It’s a family heirloom and a lot to get used to but I love it.”
Post # 6
Yeah, I think my response would be something like “Thanks – it’s a family heirloom.”
Post # 7
My friend was proposed to with a 3ct solitare which had been in her fiance’s family. I know she feels the same way that you do–she doesn’t like much attention to her ring because in reality her and her husband are pretty broke. A lot of people just ask her if it’s fake. I would be so irritated if I were in that situation! She usually just wears her wedding band instead (she’s now married)…
Post # 8
Just say, “thanks, i love it, too!”
My mom said you should NEVER be ashamed of having too many diamonds, haha. I got a lot of that with mine, too, “holy crap it’s so big! i can’t believe it” but in reality, it’s a very intricate setting and it’s kinda busy! So i can see where you’re coming from.
If you’re anything like me, people gushing over you probably makes you uncomfortable. You’ll learn to embrace it…now i just say something like, “yeah, he did a good job” or mention how much I love it.
No sense being ashamed or awkward about it, just EMBRACE THE BLING!
As far as the proposal, I usually say something like, ‘oh he took me to a park’. I don’t really delve into mushy crap in real life too much, haha.
Post # 9
I haven’t been proposed to just yet, so I can’t add much there. I just wanted to add that there is no need to apologize to venting to us “bees.” That is what we are here for 🙂