Post # 1
I see the advice a lot: “Never go to bed angry.” Unfortunately, Fiance and I have and I’m worrying that it is a really bad sign or something. Obviously, I don’t want that and I try not to let it happen, but sometimes it does. Anyone else?
Post # 3
We have, on small little tiffs. If I can’t remember what we were fighting about in the a.m., that’s a pretty good sign we were both just feeling the stress. It doesn’t happen often, though, so if you’re doing it on a regular basis I’d talk to your Fiance about how you two can better communicate.
Post # 4
Sure, and in the morning I’m not angry any more. 🙂 Sometimes going to bed is the solution.
Post # 5
We do! Well, we don’t fight much, but often we’re just so tired that a little thing seems like a big deal. Sometimes we can even laugh about it the next AM as soon as we wake up! If you’re a basketcase when you’re tired, I think you can just ignore that rule 🙂
Post # 6
Sure! One of my favorite pieces of advice from our “Advice and Wishes” bowl at our wedding was don’t be afraid to go to bed angry, because it’s usually better in the morning!
Post # 7
I have. Pretty much every time I feel much better in the morning and I am not mad anymore.
Post # 8
im awake and he is sleeping and we had a knock down drag out, im hating every second of this. in fact when we do fight it seems to be at night, and thats when he decides its time to go to bed, grrrrrr
its usually better in the am
Post # 9
I don’t think it is anything to be concerned about. The hubs and I have gone to bed angry before (not often at all, though). Ours last one to me was an unfair arguement. I made a comment based on the information that I knew of and my hubs (FI at the time) got really upset but after not talking to each other the rest of the night and going to bed mad we were able to speak better about things the next day or two. That’s when I found out about the “missing” information. We joke about it now but it helped us to communicate better.
Post # 10
I have gone to bed angry multiple times. I have found that a good night’s sleep makes most things seem better.
Post # 11
Fiance and I have a few times. It’s normally better in the morning and it’s never been over anything huge.
Post # 12
We have a few times, but one of us usually ends up waking the other during the night so that we can no longer be angry at eachother.
Post # 13
I certainly have. But I find that I feel better in the morning. Typically I will still snuggle up to him or hold hands because no matter what, I want him to know I love him and showing affection is important to us.
Post # 14
@JeniRae – I think that was very insightful advice you were given!
@OP – we have gone to bed mad many times and can always laugh about it in the morning! Nothing to worry about!
Post # 15
I try not to. I can’t go to bed very well if I’m angry. But I’ve heard people give both types of advice – “never go to bed angry” or “sleep on it and it will be better in the morning”
Post # 16
Our motto is, “go to bed angry, wake up refreshed.”
We find that we wake up in the morning refreshed and realize the fight was stupid, or we’re in a better mood to compromise on whatever we were fighting about. It works SO well for us 🙂