(Closed) Anyone else excited about their prenup?

posted 6 years ago in Money
  • poll: Prenup?
    We have (or will have) one, and I'm glad we do! : (26 votes)
    12 %
    We have one, but I wish we didn't. : (5 votes)
    2 %
    We don't have one, but I'd like to. : (15 votes)
    7 %
    We don't have one, and I wouldn't want one. : (168 votes)
    79 %
  • Post # 3
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    3461 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I’m a lawyer…and I happen to find contracts more interesting than the average person, but I can’t see getting excited about a prenup, a will, etc.  They are just tools. I’m glad you were able to use this as a way to broach an open conversation about your finances though.

    Post # 4
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    2103 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I didn’t vote. We don’t have one, and I don’t necessarily want one, but if either of us were in a position where it would have made sense, I wouldn’t have argued against it.

    Post # 5
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    9671 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2013

    We don’t have one…and I don’t think either of us really needs one (financially speaking).  But I wouldn’t have been opposed to one if one of us thought it made sense.

    Post # 6
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    786 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    We don’t have one but it is still a possibility for us.  I think like you said it’s a great way to broach what can often be a difficult topic for couples to discuss and it’s meant to protect you.  It’s a great investment.

    Post # 8
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    280 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    My position is that at the end of the day, a marriage is a legal contract. Period. Any other legal contract I would analyze and ensure that all assets are protected. Personally, I think that almost every marriage should have a prenup to determine present and future assets and expenses. For example, I want to ensure that if anything happens, my Fiance isn’t responsible for my student loans and vice versa. You can also stipulate future things such as inheritances. There are certainly other ways from keeping assets legally separate (contrary to popular belief, things aren’t always automatically joint property when acquired while together), but in my mind it’s just a responsible legal document to have in the same way that a living will or a will is a responsible document to have. I think the key is to take the emotion out of it.

    This thread reminds me that I haven’t gotten to that yet!

    Post # 9
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    9114 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    We don’t have one and we don’t need one. In Oklahoma, in the situation of a divorce, you can only take what you brought into the relationship. So, he’d always get his things and I’d always get my things.

    I’d have no desire to take money or things from him in the event of a divorce. Just too much hassle.

    Post # 10
    Hostess
    7561 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I def think talking about your future plans and finances is exciting but I don’t know if the actual prenup contract is… Undecided

    Post # 11
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    648 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I’m not excited about drawing one up, but I know it’s necessary for financial reasons (re: inheritance). However, my Boyfriend or Best Friend is not too keen on the idea. But it’s either have a pre-nup or forfeit my inheritance.

    Post # 12
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    3357 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    we don’t have one, but if it had been appropriate to have one, I wouldn’t have a problem with it. I wouldn’t be excited about it though, that’s just weird to me.

    Post # 13
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    2390 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    It kinda sounds like you are forcing yourself to act excited to cover up the fact that you’re really not. That’s all I can come up with as to why you’d say you’re excited. I couldn’t stand the idea of a prenup – I saw it as planning my divorce.

    Post # 14
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    3885 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I’m glad we have one, because I brought more money into the relationship at the start, but he’s bringing more potential, and we’ve already dabbled a bit in small businesses. Of course we’re not planning for divorce, but with a pretty complicated financial picture, it’s nice to know that we won’t feud over money, should things not work out. Divorce and money bring out the worst in people. 

    Post # 15
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    526 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @oneofthesethings:  I was genuinely excited about our prenup.  I saw it as planning my marriage, not planning my divorce.  

    Statistically, you are less likely to get a divorce if you have a prenup.

    Post # 16
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    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    We don’t have one because we have no assets, so I sort of wish that we had one because it would mean we had enough to worry about! We have an informal one for our hypothetical future money, but our grad student selves don’t need it.

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