(Closed) Anyone else feel guilty about their e-rings??

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I agree with you. I actually felt so guilty I told Darling Husband that I did not want an engagement ring. We were both in school when started looking. However, he surprised me and got me one anyway 🙂 And he did VERY good! 

 

Post # 6
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5984 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

@Big Truck: Thanks! Sometimes I look at it and think it would be nice to be bigger but then again its the only jewlery that I wear and I am such a modest and plain dresser it would probably look weird LOL.Plus my wedidng ring has bling 🙂 You could always change your riing later in life as you guys have more money. 

Post # 7
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3281 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

@Big Truck: I love my emerald cut ring… Sure I wish it was bigger (cause they are amazing when they are huge) But its what my Fiance got for me 😀

 

Post # 8
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I totally get what you are saying and I agree somewhat. I honestly didn’t have much say in the price of my ring bc my Darling Husband was upgrading a ring from a past relationship bc it was the only way he wouldn’t lose money on it. So he had to pay more for mine and really I would have never wanted him to pay that much but it was just how the cards were dealt. Now I adore my ring and am very grateful bc I never imagined I would have such a beautiful set of jewelry. I also know that it’s something I can pass down bc of the quality of stone and to me that’s priceless. Yea do I look down sometimes and think “wow, there’s a couple of mortgage payments sitting on my hand!” but I know my honey was proud and so in love when he gave me this ring and he had a sort of pride and excitement bc I didn’t pick it out so for him finding a ring that he felt was me was a good feeling and I just can’t put a price on that.

Post # 9
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1723 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bestbuddies: Your ring is very pretty!

@HoneyBear: ooo…every time I see your ring I drool.  If I wasn’t so obsessed with round stones, mine would have looked like that.

@Big Truck:  Some days, yes for about 30 seconds but most days no.  I waited a long time for it.  We don’t spend a lot of money on other stuff and I wanted this to be my forever ring without upgrading later (I’m sentimental that way.)  I saw the one you chose the other day and I think it’s gorgeous!  Here’s a pic of mine:

 

Post # 10
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130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I say stay out of the budget. Let him spend whatever he wants and don’t ask him about it! If he’s buying it–I’d say it’s 100% his say.

Post # 11
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

@Big Truck:  I TOTALLY know what you mean.  SO knows that I love diamonds and would love to have a beautiful e-ring.  I’m very picky and have an eye for detail. 

He hasn’t yet purchased the ring and wants me to teach him what I’m looking for in a center stone.  I wish I could pick out a few diamonds for him to choose from, but he says he’s up for the challenge of finding my stone on his own.  This way the proposal can be a complete surprise. 

He recently began asking me what kind of diamond he could get at X or Y pricepoint.  I later told him that it’s not my place to tell him what to spend, but I don’t want him to spend too much. . .Secretly, I’d love to have the biggest, quality rock possible, but at the same time, I’d want him to buy something he can easily afford. 

Like MrsCoachtobe, I don’t ever want to upgrade for sentimental reasons.  I’m also not the type that spends a great deal of money on other things (clothes, shoes, hand bags, etc).  Having a nice e-ring is one thing I’ve wanted for a long time, and SO is well aware of this.  He has reassured me that he knows how much I love diamonds and wants to make me happy. 

Post # 12
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5110 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

i know how u feel sometimes i feel guilty about my ring as well. we arent really wealthy or anything and i just think of everything that money could have went towards he dint even give me a price limit we just went shopping. i love my ring and i love my fi but i cant help but sometimes feel guilty 

Post # 13
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Nah.. honestly, it never really crossed my mind to feel guilty.  I’m a good woman.. I deserve nice things and so do you!  Fiance is a good man, also, so of course I feel he deserves nice things too.. and I get them for him whenever I can.  So no.. guilt never really crossed my mind.

Post # 14
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3297 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Okay, I’m sorry, but I need to rant. I think you are all forgetting one thing. They are rings. That’s all. A piece of jewelry. There’s just way too much emphasis placed on price and carat weight and a lot of it just seems ridiculous to me. I love, love love jewelry, but there are way more important things in life than wearing a down payment for a car or a house on your hand. That’s not what love and marriage are about.

Post # 15
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1577 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@sherryberry: Ooookay.  No one said that there aren’t more important things in life.  It’s just a thread discussing rings.. it’s really not that serious.

Post # 16
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3297 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

Yes good point haha. I’m a little cranky tonight. Sorry.

 

Of course we all deserve nice things, but don’t feel guilty if it’s what you really want. Just enjoy it and enjoy your good fortune.

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