Post # 1
I cannot find my perfect ring. I’ve been lurking here and have searched every local store and big name website for hours. I’ve pinned dozens of rings and there is always just one tiny thing wrong with every one that I find I like.
I nitpick tiny things, like the prong shape, or the band thickness, or the height. Anyone else like this?
I think part of the problem is that I’m older (46) and I’ve seen trends come and go and really want something timeless. I’ve been around long enough to know that it is really hard to pick something I know I’ll still like in 20, 30, 40 years.
Post # 2
My ring is very simple, but I had it custom make so that it would be perfect. Have you thought about going custom?
Post # 3
sharpshooter : Yes, but I’m so afraid they will get something wrong as I really am being ridiculously picky. I at least want to show them an image of exactly what I want. I’m afraid if I just describe it or draw it with my own terrible skills, it will wind up not coming together right. I really want to at least find a picture of what I want.
Post # 4
PeaceandSunshine : makes sense. I would bring in pictures of different elements that they want and they will creat a digital image for you and they can even print it in 3D for you to try out before they make it.
and you can make changes during the design process.
Post # 5
No, do not do custom work. You seem to have only a vague notion of what you want and that’s a terrible way to start a project.
So far as being timeless, get a solitaire on a plain band. Even with a solitaire that there are touches that give away the era it was made, but they’re less pronounced. The smart thing to do is get what you love now and forget the timeless thing, and forget that you need to make sure you will love it forever. You cant guarantee that, sorry. People change and so will you. Half the women who proclaim that will love their ring forever will wind up upgrading or changing it if they have the funds to do so. You cant fight time and you certainly cant fight the changes in your likes and dislikes over the coming years. It’s pointless to even try. Get what appeals to you now.
Post # 6
I feel too picky also so I’m getting something custom made. I’ve done (way too much research) so I know exactly what I want. Agree with PP that it’s not great to customize if you don’t know exactly what you want. Hope you find something special!
Post # 7
I feel this! When I was ring shopping every ring I tried on was almost perfect, but there was always a tiny detail that was wrong that bagged at me. In the end I had to prioritize my little nit-picky things and be willing to compromise on some of them as we didn’t have the budget to go completely custom. I ended up getting everything I wanted, except that I feel the band on my e-ring is a bit thicker than I like. But I can live with that knowing that it will eventually be paired with a wedding band and I got everything else on my “want” list.
Post # 8
I would agree to not go custom until you know exactly what you want because it will be a long and painful exercise for everyone in involved. If you are unsure, I would stick with the classic’s. Maybe invest most of your money into the stone itself and get a simple solitaire from Stuller.
I feel very different about these things because I have been married awhile too. I recognize that my style will change every few years or decades…whatever. I just get what I love now and if I want to redo my setting down the road because I want something different, then I make a change. I don’t get stuck on a particular design and feel like I have to look at it for the rest of my life. I have redone my setting more times then I would like to admit!
People feel different about these things though and if you are that type, I would go with timeless so that you don’t regret your decision in the future.
Post # 9
I was sooooo picky.
I was not someone who had looked at rings previously or knew a darn about cuts, stone durability, or ANYTHING. I just knew I would prefer a colored gemstone, but that was it. I didn’t know where else to start.
So when we finally started looking and after I had narrowed it down to a pink sapphire, I was picky about everything. How heavy the ring felt. How far up it sat on my hand. It had to be secondhand or lab. How many prongs there were. How sparkly the sapphire was. The one thing I didn’t care so much about though was carat, for whatever reason. 😂
I spent months searching. So don’t worry. You aren’t alone. And I am so happy I was picky because I got a ring I love so much.
Post # 10
PeaceandSunshine : OH MY GOD YES! I’m right there with you- I’m 47 and shopping for my forever ring. I’ve been at it for over a freaking year already! Well… if I’m honest it’s been 10 years plus a year, haha! A year ago I had picked out a ring at moissaniteco that I adored, then I changed my mind 20 times, and now I’m actually right back at the same ring- I’ve come full circle apparently. I’m a week away from ordering it and I’m scared to death.
Good luck in your search, I hope you find the perfect ring!
Post # 11
OMG! I thought I was the only one. We got engaged when I was 47. We’ve tried three different rings and have returned them because I always find something wrong or no longer like it. I feel like there is something wrong with me. I do know that trying rings on is better than pinning them on Pinterest. I love my wedding band so much and I’d like my “forever” ring to go with it. But maybe I just get cheap rings that I switch out but I’d really like a forever ring that brings me joy every time I look at it.
Post # 12
It took me MONTHS! I thought I would just never find it! I was super picky but after trying on a ton I saw it on a banner ad and knew. Tried it on fell in love and it’s on my hand for life. Online I could nit pick for hours but on my hand it was immediate yes/no.. well all meh, I could live with it but no, till this one.
The whole it might go out of style idea, you like what you like, trends come and go but most styles have all been done before and all come back around. So get what you love and don’t worry about it. It’s your style and that’s all that matters! My friends all said, it’s stunning and it looks like you. Which is what I was going for! I don’t want something generic I wanted it to suit me and if someday other people think it looks dated.. well I’ll be dated too!
Post # 13
If you describe your vision to a jeweler they really might blow you away!
Post # 14
PeaceandSunshine : You are describing me to a T so know you are not alone!
I have just gotten a new wedding set for my 15th wedding anniversary (so I am similar age bracket to you!) and went custom and have had it reset three time as there was something small i didn’t like after each time! I found the whole process stressful (and expenisve) so if you are not a go with the flow type (i am not ha ha) and unless you know exactly, EXACTLY 🙂 what you want i would stay away from custom. Its a fab way to get the ring of your dreams if you can explain in detail what you want but if you cant it can run away from you! Believe me I know!
So sunburn : is spot on with her advice! Your taste will change and nothing is forever so choose something that makes you happy!
Cant wait to see what you come up with, my third revision arrived this morning and I am 99.9% happy with it now, so I am getting there ha ha!!
Post # 15
Picky wouldn’t even begin to describe me when I was on the hunt!
We originally got married with a small heirloom ring, which I loved and still love… however my spouse was really looking forward to buying me a ring of my choosing, so on our 1st wedding anniversary my gift was an upgrade/ring I picked out. Let me tell you we just celebrated our 3rd year wedding anniversary in Sept, and I finally found my ring 2 months prior (in July) … it took me THAT long to narrow down what I wanted, especially cause what I thought I wanted didn’t end up to be what I wanted at all…. I ended up with a different shape, with a halo, and a sapphire as my main stone… completely opposite of what I thought I wanted initially. Trial and error, lots of returns (ordering online), and Pinterest scouring is how I finally found my ring, and I’m very much in love with it!
unfortunately for me, going in and trying rings on at local jewelers didn’t help me in the least,I think it made me more confused.
for me it would have been helpful to know what shape I really wanted, so if you can narrow that down you should be ok! Hopefully it doesn’t take you almost 2 years, just research shape, carat size, the basics, and then go from there!