Anyone else feel like they are too picky?

posted 1 month ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Sugar bee

sunburn :  I don’t understand your reasoning behind why she shouldn’t go custom?  She can combine different elements and work with the jeweler to create the perfect ring.  

I’m not saying go right this moment while she is still trying to figure out what she wants, but once she has honed in on a few favorites, take them in and talk to the jeweler about elements she loves.

 

 

Post # 17
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Honey bee

sharpshooter :  What you’re describing is a fiasco waiting to happen. There are plenty of people who are unhappy with custom work because it was not what they envisioned or thought they communicated. The best way to ensure this doesnt happen is to go in with a firm idea of what you want overall, not bits and pieces of other rings that you want mashed together.

Post # 18
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Sugar bee

sunburn :  I think talking to a professional jeweler would be helpful and they can guide her in the right direction.

I guess I don’t agree that it’s a fiasco.  

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

sunburn :  Completely agree with this! I’m testement to that!

sharpshooter :  I knew exactly what i wanted, thought I had communicated 100% but here we are on my third (and thankfully last) revision! Ha Ha

Now my Jeweller was not local but maybe the process would be a bit easier if they were!

Post # 21
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Busy bee

I would suggest a Tiffany solitaire. 

Post # 22
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Honey bee

I’m wondering what could be wrong with a solitaire. I like the Tiffany idea and suggest you go there to try on rings. If you like the solitaire, the Vatché U113 is nearly an identical match at a non-identical price.

Post # 23
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

PeaceandSunshine :  are you only looking at rings listed as “engagement rings”? If so maybe expand you search to include rings listed as “promise rings” abd “diamond fashion rings”. I also struggled to find a ring i liked and the one i ended up loving was actually marketed as a “diamond fashion ring”

Post # 24
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

How about going custom with Tianyu. Using all the elements of the rings you love and putting it in one ring. I did that and loved the result, apart from a few things. I had the Computer images remade about 15 times until the ring was perfect. It’s much cheaper to make a mistake with Tianyu then a jewellery store at home. If you still love the Tianyu ring after a while of wearing it, then you can have it replicated in better quality at a jewellery store.

Alternatively, put the budget into the best stone you can afford and wear it as a solitaire until you know what you want.

Post # 27
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2000

OP I am even older than you are. I would say get a classic shape, probably a round brilliant. Put it in a solitaire setting, a very simple solitaire setting. Put all of your money in the quality of the stone not the size,and make sure the thing sparkles like a demon.

That is the closest you can get to a classic ring that will not look dated.

Over the next few decades you can play around with the setting if you get bored with a solitaire. Or you can swap Out white gold for yellow gold or vice verse.  Or you can buy wraps and enhancers for it. Or you could add stacks to it.

That is kinda/sorta what I do with my engagement ring, a marquise shape which is definately dated but I still like it!

Post # 28
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2019

PeaceandSunshine :  you can have the computer image made by Tianyu without paying for the ring. It’s something like $25 to make the CAD. Maybe see if they can make the setting you are after. If not, you’ve only wasted $25. You don’t have to draw it, just send pictures of the prongs, basket and band you want. My ring was made using elements of 5 different rings.

Totally agree with the PP about getting the best stone you can.

Post # 29
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Blushing bee

Omg me! We went to check ring today, and I was choosing the stone for hours. Now we already made decision and I’m still thinking if I made anything wrong. I the over thinking type I guess

Post # 30
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Helper bee

I’m also quite picky (about everything, the ring, the dress, etc.) so I went with a custom jeweler and couldn’t be happier. My ring was made by Mark Morrell. You should check him out if you’re considering a custom ring. He has many existing designs to choose from, but he can also create something unique at your request. My fiance said he was very easy to communicate with.

I prefer clean, simple designs as well. I hate halos and I think they’re going to look dated soon, but a classic round solitaire will never go out of style. Even though I just wanted a simple solitaire, I didn’t like any of the mass-produced settings I found online or in stores. They all had thick, chunky prongs or wide bands, and I wanted a thin band with delicate prongs. I have small hands, so I didn’t want a ring that would overwhelm my tiny fingers.

I ended up buying the stone and the setting separately. I bought my lab diamond from Brilliant Earth, and then I sent it to Mark Morrell so he could build a platinum setting for it. All I had to do was tell him my ring size and which setting I wanted. My ring fits perfectly and the setting is absolutely perfect. (Trust me, I’ve inspected it for flaws and couldn’t find any!)

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