Post # 1
My fiance and I are getting married on September 7th.
I would consider myself more of a minimalist, so I do not like a lot of clutter, especially when it comes to decorations. However, I keep on feeling that my wedding will be underdecorated and will feel like something is missing.
For example, we arent doing an aisle runner, a ceremony backdrop, programs, a guest book, signage (other than 1 welcome sign), a special cake knife, special toasting flutes, a memory table, menus, etc.
Here is what we are doing:
Ceremony: In our church atruim, which has an industiral feel (cement, high ceilings, large windows)
- Small welcome table with tablecloth and sash, 8 X 10 sign, votives, greenery and loose flowers, basket with bubbles
- Floral arrangements on every other row
- Flowers for flower girls and wedding party
Reception: Hotel ballroom with windows overlooking a river down below.
- Escort card table with escort cards and (maybe?) some greenery/flowers
- Card table with only a card box (no signs or anything)
- Mr. and Mrs. signs for the sweetheart table
Looking through wedding resale groups on Facebook, it looks like a lot of people went ALL OUT with their decoations. I just cant help but thinking that our wedding will look very underdone and unimpressive.
Did anyone else feel this way? From what I have written, what things do you think I should buy?
Post # 2
I think having minimal decorations will look fine! We don’t like clutter either and all we had for our ceremony was one simple floral circle at the top of the aisle to create an “alter” as our ceremony was outdoors. We had no signs, no programs, no runner, no pew end arrangements etc
For our reception we had one larger hanging floral arrangement, no centrepieces and just a few candles on the tables. Personally I loved the simplicity and thought it was really effective. You don’t need to decorate every surface, some people do because that is their style but if it isn’t don’t feel pressured to buy a bunch of nicknacks.
Post # 3
I also did a minimal decor wedding, mostly because the venue itself was beautiful enough. I added no decor to the ceremony hall other than 2 large plant/floral arrangements by the altar, and bulletins. Our ceremony hall was carpeted and had decorative pews, stained glass windows, etc. so no extra decor was really necessary.
For the reception hall I put centerpieces on every table, tablecloths, and some extra fabric/bows around our headtable to fancy it up a little and set it apart. The venue had hardwood floors, lots of windows, dim lighting, and gold colored “bamboo style” chairs, so I didn’t feel the need for much extra…definitely wasn’t going to put bows on all the chairs, lol. My parents said a lot of guests complimented the wedding/reception, so I don’t think our lack of decor came across as underdoing anything. Small details like toast glasses and cake knives will go unnoticed by most guests anyway.
I think your wedding decor sounds great. Can’t go wrong with putting flowers anyplace that looks bare.
Post # 4
We had zero decor. The moms had flowers, our kids had flowers, and that was it. No toasting glasses or special knives, no aisle runner. We got married on a yacht on a lake – it didn’t feel underdecorated or unimpressive. And it saved us so much money and hassle!
Post # 5
Industrial is a look in itself.
I had no decor in the church at all. It was lovely by itself. Although we did have programmes as it was a long service that needed them.
At the reception, it was a huge space that couldn’t really be decorated without spending a fortune. They had nice lighting which helped. Otherwise, we splurged a bit on tall floral centre pieces and chiavari chairs.
We did have a special knife but only because it’s a family heirloom. I can’t remember what anyone used to cut the cake at any wedding except my own!
I’m sure it’ll be fine.
Post # 6
No one is going to notice if you’re not using a special knife. They don’t really care. People want good food and an open bar. Everything is else is just nice to have. If you want to create more impact on a budget add candles. I will ask why you aren’t doing a guestbook? We had cards with prompts that people could answer like “Where do you see us in 10 years” or “What advice to have for us”. We still have them in a box on my dresser, and we read them once in a while. Some are hilarious and others sweet, but we just love them. We also had our last name cut out in wood that was signed by our guests. That sign is in our living room and I still love reading what people wrote. You can totally do what you want, but with all the non traditional “guest books” they have now there’s a million ideas. Overall though it sounds like you have all the bases covered, and I’m sure your wedding is going to be beautiful.
Post # 7
Of course the people who are reselling stuff on Facebook went all out. That’s why they have stuff left over to resell! Lol. Don’t judge your own wedding against a small subsection of weddings. I would imagine people who had minimal decor didn’t really have anything to resell so that’s why you’re not seeing their stuff.
Go all out, someone will judge you for wasting money. Go minimal, someone will judge you anyway. So do what makes you happy. I personally hate the idea of cluttering the house with wedding decor that will have to be resold after a single day of use. And your decor sounds lovely. Even if you did have a special knife or glasses, none of the guests would be physically close enough to notice anyway, unless they have hawk vision.
Post # 8
We had very minimal decoration. Our ceremony site had had some flowers at the front and the lights (those are always there, provided by the venue).
Our reception had pretty much just centerpieces as decor:
I definitely didn’t feel like we needed more!
Post # 9
Besides lighting, the only decor we had were flowers and table numbers.
Post # 10
In the end no one notices how much decor you have. If they see a bride and flowers they know they’re at a wedding. I found extra decor to be a waste in the end because people noticed what was being said in the ceremony, and how comfortable they were, but did not notice the tiny details.
Post # 11
zzar45 : hikingbride : These photos are gorgeous!
alexam : I kept buying decorations- ours was a casual themed wedding and I went overboard on the decor. We were also DIY-ing a lot of it and I grossly underestimated how time consuming the decorating would be, even with helping hands. The unnecessary cost adds up too. Don’t be me, Bee- less is more 🙂
Post # 12
- Wedding: Elizabethtown, NC
I personally felt that our decor was pretty minimal (especially at the ceremony) but that was intentional because our venue was naturally beautiful and didn’t need much! I also think that not having too much decor gave the things that I did make the opportunity to shine through and get the attention that [I felt] they deserved.
Post # 13
- Wedding: May 2019 - Hyatt Regency Grand Cypress
We had no decor at the ceremony and minimal at the reception (votives provided by the venue and centerpieces from the florist). We were having a destination wedding and I didn’t want to haul a bunch of stuff on the plane. Also, we chose our venue because we thought it was so beautiful and I didn’t want to clutter it up.
ETA: The reception photo reminded me we did also have a few tall palm plants from our florist. The room was huge and we didn’t have a ton of guests, so I thought they’d help fill in the space.
Post # 14
We didn’t do most of what you list either. We did increase our flower budget, however, so that we could flank the ceremony area with large clyndrical vases of flowers, have flowers on the ceremony space chairs, for bigger arrangements on the dinner tables, and smallers ones on cocktail tables. We also added accent lighting to the dance floor. I think those things made a bigger impact than special knives, guest books, etc.