- 7 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
Fiance and I went back and forth on having one, and in the end, decided yes – I really wanted my friends standing with me and knew from my first wedding that I wouldn’t really ask crazy things of them and it would be nice to have that relationship in our wedding.
We decided against a MOH/BM because Fiance couldn’t decide who to choose from his 2 cousins and friend, so we went with 3 groomsmen and 2 bridesmaids.
I then find out my closest friend living in Miami wasn’t sure she could make the wedding. She is all for being a bridesmaid but doesn’t know when she’ll know if she and her family CAN come. So I can’t really count on her for anything.
So I asked my cousin who lives a couple of hours away to join me, so I knew I’d have at least 2 on my side and I wanted her daughters as our flower girls.
I have another friend from Miami who is living in North Jersey who is my other bridesmaid.
So far, from them… I’ve had NO help. None offered to do a shower, so my mom is hosting it.
My Jersey Bridesmaid or Best Man told me the other day ‘oh yeah, I guess I should call your mom and tell her I’m not coming to the shower.’. Umm, what?! I know it’s a Sunday brunch shower, and it’s about 2.5 hours away from here, but COME ON.
She’s never been in a wedding before, so I told her how bummed I was and that usually it’s the bridesmaids that HOST the shower, so it’d be really nice if she could make it. But no such luck.
I’m not having a bachelorette or anything since they’re all so far away, and it just feels like for the little I’m asking (wear whatever aqua dress you want – since I knew they all had these, shoes/jewelry/hair – all up to you, be comfy) the least they could do is commit and show up to the shower.
Fiance has no word on any sort of bachelor party for him, which I hope he gets. We decided the guys attire based on what they already owned and are buying their ties and socks for them so that matches. Again – nothign really asked, but no one putting any effort into him. They were all in a wedding together last May and Fiance did all the work, planning a Jack & Jill weekend once he got word that no one wantedto host anything for the bride.
I’m just a little sad no one seems to be putting in the effort as friends that we would do and I’m sure I’m not alone here.
Anyone else having the same trouble?