Post # 1
Fiance & I have been living together since 2 months into our relationship. We started dating in May 2006. We bought our first place together in 2008 (we were renting prior to that) and had our first baby in 2008 as well. I feel like we’re already married.
I wonder if it’ll feel ‘different’ after we’ve officially tied the knot?
Post # 3
I feel like that too. I’m looking forward to the wedding, but I don’t see how anything will change. But this is a good thing! People shouldn’t prioritize a wedding, or even marriage, over their relationship in my opinion.
Post # 4
Yep, I feel the same. We’ve been living together for almost three years. I’m not going to lie, our first two years were TOUGH….we fought CONSTANTLY! Over stupid things! But we got past it and now I feel like we have such a strong “marriage” haha.
Post # 5
i’m with you: dating since Aug. ’05, moved in unofficially shortly after, officially April ’06, bought house Dec. ’09. No babies though.
I wonder the same thing, but I must admit, I get all emotional randomly about the whole idea of getting married and being with this great guy forever! I doubt the day to day will change, but it still means a ton. I wonder if our feelings will change?
Post # 6
We’ve been together 9 years, almost 10 by the time the wedding rolls around! We own our home, and have really grown up together, even though we met in our early 20s. We really wanted to be done with grad school, and on secure financial footing before we got engaged, even though we’ve known all along we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together. I’m one of those people who don’t think much will change after we’re married. I feel like we’ve been commited to one another from the start, and no piece of paper is going to magically make that commitment stronger. However, for us, we don’t see marriage as a religious sacrament, like many do. Our wedding will simply be an outward expression of our inward love/commitment for our community to witness.
Post # 7
Ya I feel like our “honeymoon” phase was over a long time ago. We moved in together after two months too. He’s my hubbie to me already. I always wonder if it will feel different after we’re “oficiall” married…I doubt it will though.
Post # 8
We had lived together for over 3 years when we got married and yes it does feel SLIGHTLY different. It doesnt feel different every single day or every moment, but it does at some moments and its great!! Actually at times I still think “hes my boyfriend” but then you remember that you are married and it feels wonderful! We just feel more united, more like a family and a team even though we always have been. I cant describe it but its awesome!
Post # 9
thanks for responding! i was really hoping a married bee would and your response made me smile!
Post # 10
I don’t think it will. I’ve only noticed a difference since he told me that he wanted us to have our wedding. We have the kids and house etc already so we never really felt anxious about getting married but I’m looking forward to the moment that we actually share our vows.
Post # 11
I totally feel like we are already married. We have been dating since Sep 9, 2005 then moved in together in March of 2009 and got engaged on Dec. 4, 2009. We are getting married on November 27, 2010. I don’t think much will change besides my last name.
Post # 12
We’ve been old marrieds for years, lol. Together since Jan ’00, cohabiting since Sept ’00, engaged since Jan ’07…
Not expecting a lot of changes, but some of them are small things that don’t occur to you very often. After my mum died (Feb ’07), at the funeral, many people (who didn’t know us v well) were offering condolences to my brother’s wife. At that point, they’d been married less than 1 year, and together 3. A lot of those people pretty much ignored my fella, so that did grate a little. I think you just get to the stage where you want the world to take your relationship seriously, and TBH a lot of people just don’t until you’re married.
But otherwise, not expecting a whole lot to change! Except the taxman will be a little more generous! Yay!
Post # 13
Yep, my fiance and I have been together for 6 years, lived together for 4 of those. We already have to do holiday scheduling between both our families, etc. We’ve already bought a house and furniture together. Etc. For us, the wedding is just a party to make it “legal”. 🙂
Post # 14
It’s kind of a running joke when everyone asks me how married life is, and my response is typically “exactely the same.” It’s still just as fabulous as it was before, and quite honestly I wouldn’t ask for it any other way. I think living together before marriage is such a great thing, because it’s a HUGE transition. The wedding just makes it that much more official. Sometimes I think it’s wierd to say my “husband”, but it feels great! It’s just that official lifelong commitment that makes it special.
Post # 15
Youre welcome! I had this same question before getting married, but I did not fully understand what my married friends meant when they said they felt different. Im sure it is different for every couple, but I do think that a tiny little thing changes. Maybe its just something you have in the very back of your head that you are now there for one another, always, no matter what. Also, it has only been 2 months for us so maybe the feeling continues to change…we will see. Its also a sense of pride, too (I think) like now he is my HUSBAND and it is awesome to be able to say that to the world!
Post # 16
Im excited for the day to come so I can see if it feels any different!