Post # 1
So I’ve got my dress! Whoop whoop! However I was wondering if any other bees ever felt pressurized in dress shops whilst on the dress hunt? I started looking for a dress just before the 6 month mark, I realised this was a little later than some brides might start the search but from the info I had I thought as long as you leave at least 4 months then you’re ok for dresses. However, each shop I went into made a big fuss of saying I’d left it really late and they needed to know within about 24 hours of me trying the dress on whether I wanted it or they wouldn’t be able to order it in. It made me quite uncomfortable as it’s a big decision and a lot of money and I felt that even if this was the truth they were often quite unecessarily pushy and ‘eye rolling’ about how late I’d left it which in the end actually put me off buying from them.
When I tried on the dress that I’d later come to buy I was told they would need to know within 3 days of me trying it on otherwise it would be “too late to order it in”. This was the first shop I’d been to so I decided that I wanted to try more on before making a decision. Fast forward 10 days later and I decided that I did in fact want the dress from the first shop. I called up and pretty much begged them to let me order it, acknowledging more than 3 days have passed so I understood if I’d missed my chance. What do you know…they tell me that’s fine and I’ve got enough time!! This made me a bit annoyed as they obviously were pushing me to decide early so that they could make a sale which I think is a bit inappropriate.
I know that I was perhaps leaving it a little late and that shops obviously do want to make sales so they are going to do the whole ‘sales pitch’ thing but at the same time…this is meant to be a nice experience and I didn’t expect to feel under so much pressure. If they were honest and said I could leave it 10 days before making a decision I would have still bought the original dress so they would have still got my money without having to stress me out!!!
Any bees had any similar experiences?
Post # 3
As I read this, I kept thinking “Wait..DID I post on the bee about last weeeknd!??!!”.
This is EXACTLY the experience I had. The first salon I booked an appointment with is one where you can’t pull your own dresses or see their inventory– they do all the pulling. I showed up armed with photos of what I love (lace with deep v back or a jenny packham esque sheath on a whim) and the fabrics I DIDN’T like (organza, tulle, taffeta). I told ehr where my wedding was and that I wanted a vintage romantic feel.
She pulled 8 dresses total in groups of 4 and literally only 2 of the 8 were nice. The other ones were like curtains and two were taffeta BALLGOWNS for a god damn outside barn wedding ahahaha. There were 6 other brides with appointments and I think they divy up the “good ones” hahaha.
At the end she pulled the same deal with me telling me that I needed to make a decision right now and that I should have ordered a dress “like yesterday”. I was almost in tears thinking that I was supposed to choose after only trying on 6 dresses. My grandmother is in her 90’s and is paying for my dress and it was supposed to bea fun process and I didn’t want it to be done after 6 dresses– only 2 of which I even liked. I didn’t fall in love and it’s my WEDDING dress.
Oh, and let me add…my wedding is 9 months away!
I called a couple other boutiques the next morning who calmed me down and said she was just trying to make a sale. It was an unfortunate experience that sort of rained on the great day we were having but I guess this is to be expected. An hour is NOT enough time to try on dresses– esp when you’re not able to look through and pull the ones you like. If you don’t connect with the person helping you, you’re at their mercy for the minimal time you have.
Try not to let it get you down. Make appointments for a LOT of places now — it takes a couple weeks to fit you in at most of the placesI called and you can always cancel if you find your dress elsewhere. That way, you’re not going to push the timeline back any further if you don’t find one in the next couple appointments. I also suggest goign on a weekday if there’s any way you can swing it because you’ll be wayyyy less rushed.
I hope your next trip is better and I’m so glad I’m not alone!
Post # 4
I think the stores shouldn’t have been pushy, but they are right that you’re a bit late.
it takes 4 months from the time you order your dress in your specific size and color and height to come into the store, then you will need follow up fittings to decide on alterations, which takes another 2 months if done through the shop seamstress!
glad you found your dress though, congrats!
Post # 5
They were telling me I was late ordering at 9 months out…I think it’s a lot of bull most of the time.
Post # 6
I also shopped at 6 months out and got the same BS you did. They all kept telling me I had less than three days left to order. It’s a crappy sales tactic.
Post # 7
Ah thanks for your replies ladies! I suppose it was just quite unexpected to get so much pressure right from the off! I know I could have started shopping a bit earlier but either way I don’t think it’s fair for a shop to pressurize you into making a such big decision – especially as deep down they knew I had at least a 2 week window and they were instead telling me it was a TWO day window!! Very cheeky!! It seriously stressed me and my mum out no end!
Unfortunately I’m slowly realising that as soon as you mention ‘wedding’ to a supplier prices and pressure go up! I’ll have to play a bit of hard-ball next time!
I’m ok because I ultimately got the dress I wanted I was just interested to know if this was the ‘norm’ in dress shops or if I just got unlucky! It reminded me of buying a used car and having the salesperson putting on unnecessary pressure for you to buy it there and then 😛
Post # 8
i totally did they even said i needed to order dress 10 months early (not true) in some they just want you to buy then they dont care its ur 1st time or ur not sure or you can’t pick they jsut want you to buy something now so they get their cut
Post # 9
Yep they can be very pushy, I had one sales person tell me I was being too fussy and had to lower my standard as I wouldn’t find what I wanted. Pulled the “you like this dress and it’s a one off so you must take it now if you want it”! I walked and ended up with my dream dress later that day in another store
Post # 10
Hmm, this is interesting. Part of the reason I went with my off-the-rack David’s Bridal dress was because the shops were telling me (at 9 months out) that I was really, really late, and I needed to order like that week or the next week. In addition to just being cheap, lol, I didn’t want to feel stressed about whether my dress would get in on time, so I decided to just go off the rack. Haha, stupid salespeople, you lost yourself a sale this time around!!