(Closed) Anyone else feel sex is overrated?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 3
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had the Mirena for a year. The entire year I had it I hated sex. Removed it and now I love sex again!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

you should be able to use a form of contraception that doesn’t make sex hurt. why do you have to use an IUD? there are tons of other options. talk to your doctor.

hope things get better!

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Nope, I love sex. Seriously, I could do it every night and all during the weekend and would be one happy camper.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee

I love sex.  We still have sex everyday.  I was on one pill (forget which one) that totally killed my sex drive, and I went about 2 months without having sex when I was in a previous long-term relationship.  I switched to the Nuvaring and have been happy ever since.  I can’t rave about the Nuvaring enough, and it’s just as effective as other birth controls, but you just leave it in for 3 weeks so you don’t have to worry about taking anything daily.  Maybe that’s something to consider if you’re looking for a convenient method of bc?  IUDs are super easy, but if you never feel like having sex, then it’s not worth it, IMO.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

Hmm… I don’t think it’s overrated (I do love sex!), but it’s not always great either. These days I’m often so tired and grumpy after work that I’m definitely not in the mood. I’ve found that forcing yourself to do it when you don’t really feel like it kind of guarantees that the sex won’t be that great.

Does it hurt because of your IUD, or because you’re kind of new to it? If it’s your IUD causing you pain, then get rid of that thing pronto!! If it’s because you’re kind of new to having sex, then make sure everything is slip-slidey before you start rubbing bits together (natural or artificial lube is all good!) and go slow.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Hmm.. I’m on the pill and I can definately say I have a low sex drive. It can be really difficult for our relationship too. I’m looking forward to when I’m off birth control completely…

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

Ummmm…no. Absolutely not. I’m one who could have sex every day and never grow tired of it. I never get as much pleasure out of pleasuring myself and only resort to that when Fiance is out of town.

Post # 10
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah, sometimes, especially if it’s uncomfortable. Then it’s like, “wow that was not that much fun”. I don’t get the big hype. My mom told me sex was overrated when I was a teenager and I thought she was telling me that just to scare me into staying a virgin.

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

In a word, no. But it seems like there’s factors at play that affect how you feel about it, like if it sometimes hurts or is uncomfortable, you might not be able to easily relax and let loose. I hope it gets better for you, because good sex is GREAT and everyone should get to experience it. LOL.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

sometimes its good/sometimes its bad

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I don’t think that the mirena really has very much to do with it IMO, especially bc you can’t compare what your sex drive or how pleasurable sex was before the IUD was placed. I would say that you just need more lube and foreplay! Hope you are able to work it out soon!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Great I’m probably going to be the only one here : I like sex, but I could live without it. I am not driven to have it at all, I like flirting and kissing but I just don’t care for it. We have sex 1 mayyybe 2 times a week. I “give” a lot more, I enjoy that more than sex (and its quicker). I have been on like 9 different birth controls and my sex drive has never gotten better, so I don’t know if thats what causes it or what.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper

Just PM’d you 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Well when I was on the pill, I had no sex drive at all and didn’t really find it that awesome. Not on the pill now. We average about once a week, but it’s awesome when we do 🙂

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