(Closed) Anyone else feel slightly scared along with excited about getting engaged?

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@coastalbee88: I think it’s probably because you imagine it as this thing that will “never happen” (which is ridiculous) and 2, you know that it took a bit to be able to talk about this stuff (update me sometime!), so now that it’s actually possible… you hope it lives up to how you imagined it. I think I get it! We’ll see if I feel the same…

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I totally understand this feeing. When I think of getting engaged as a hypothetical or future event, it seems very romantic. I’m excited, happy, glowing. But then when I actually imagine him getting down on one knee and wearing my ring, I feel a little worried. I guess it’s the finality of it all. I think Mrs. Trail Mix had a really good post on the main site a few days ago about how marriage changes your relationship. Suddenly what was once a casual thing that you could walk away from at any moment is now a legally binding, seemingly inescapable situation. For an independent person like myself, it makes me a little scared! Then there’s the idea that I will have to plan the wedding. I like the idea of being engaged and the idea of a beautiful wedding, but all the stress and money in between makes it really unappealing. After you get that ring you start getting all the questions. You pick the date, the venue, you make deposists. It’s a lot of pressure! 

Anyway, I guess my point is that it’s a HUGE turning point in your life and I think it’s normal to be scared or hesistant. 

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

@coastalbee88: Ummm i was so ready for a proposal about a year ago and then when i realize what it meant i would FREAK OUT! Not really because of the marriage, i was ok with that.  It was planning the wedding.  That sort of terrifies me. All those people i want to have a good time and all the planning AHHH. I am high strung. Clearly. 

BUt i think knowing its that moment where your whole life completely changes is daunting. And then when its done its OVER! Haha. So i will be shaking when it happens.  And probably the following 3 hours. And then when i have to tell everyone, shaking again. Just because its so HUGE.

Post # 7
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I totally understand this feeling. I want nothing more than to spend the rest of my life with my SO. I truly believe we are meant to be together but lately he will do things that drive me nuts and I start to question things.  I wonder if I’m rushing this feeling or if I just want to join in all of my friends getting engaged.  When I step back and breathe..I realize I’m getting a lil crazy and that I do love him but I think the finality of engagement and marriage is scaring me a bit.

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