Anyone else feel this way?

posted 1 month ago in Emotional
Post # 16
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65 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

Sounds perfectly normal to me. My fiance said he didn’t want a big wedding. I told him I didn’t want a wedding at all! We eloped, out of the country, and it was just perfect! 

Post # 17
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331 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2019

What you have is an excellent sense of perspective and you should be proud of that! The dress the venue the blah blah blah – none of it really matters. What matters is the commitment you are making to each other and your life after. 
That said we all like a pretty dress and a charming venue. Embrace this attitude and let it be the thing that makes this wedding stress free. It doesn’t matter if one of the canapés is wrong … you will be marrying your soul mate. And that’s it! No need to worry about the detail so much once you realise they don’t really matter xx

Post # 18
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1355 posts
Bumble bee

delilah146 :  I’m not either, for various reasons. Honestly I’d be happier eloping and having nice pics. 

But I feel his friends n family deserve to come. It’s his first, my second..my first was pretty much an elopement.  

I’m more excited for him.it’s a huge deal for him to be married.  Nothing  has to be perfect for me, in fact I bought an inclusive package just so I don’t have to do anything, and we are cutting out almost all traditions and extra expenses. 

 

You don’t have to live up to an preconceptions nor expectations.  Do you! 

Post # 19
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375 posts
Helper bee

I was the same. Our wedding has since passed and still not that thrilled looking at photos and thinking about it. I get most exciting thinking about the journey together. Right now we have a goal of paying our house off in a year and to throw some confetti in… not prevent babies. So I get excited thinking about these adventures together. And watching my husband be a dad someday. 

I just never thought about my wedding growing up and frankly I thought I would never get married. So… dunno lol. But I don’t think you feelings are abnormal at all. 

Post # 20
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167 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2020 - City, State

I have found that it only becomes stressful for me if I give myself too many options. There’s this website called JJ’s house and my friend got her wedding dress from it- SO CHEAP and excellent quality- you get the dress within 2-3 weeks. I have honestly seen something I’ve liked, done a quick price comparison and then booked it. That way it’s just done- out of the way- I don’t have to keep tossing it around in my brain. Etsy is WONDERFUL and I have found most of my stuff from there. All my flowers are going to be fake so I just bought my bouquet, and will have a crafting day with my friends to do my centerpieces. ALSO- bridal parties stress me out so I opted not to have one. I booked the venue first which also handles the food/bar in house and also has space for us to get ready- then photographer/videographer- then a DJ and photobooth bus. I also booked out like 1.5 year in advance so I didn’t have to worry about things getting taken out from under me and now I feel like I can kind of take my time for the rest. Just focus on one thing at a time, don’t listen to other people’s input if it stresses you out.

 

OR- you could just elope. I would have gone with that option myself, but circumstances changed so semi- big wedding it is! I suffer from generalized anxiety so having my ducks in a row and not confusing myself by being indecisive has really helped. Hopefully some of my experience may be useful to you… Good luck, Bee! And Congratulations! Don’t forget you’re supposed to enjoy this, so whatever that looks like for YOU and your partner- do that!

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