(Closed) Anyone else feel too overwhelmed

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@Miss Otter: I only have 14 months left and I’ve only been “looking” around. I reallyyy need to start actually booking people. But I started looking at the venue for the reception first.

Post # 4
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I completely know how you feel. I feel overwelmed all the time with wedding planning. For me, I kind of just got into the groove… Stated with one thing and just kept going. Now I have all the essentials out of the way and it feels SOOO good. But, it was and still is hard to make decisions. Just take things one day at a time and try to enjoy the experience as much as possible.

By the way, I am a WI bride too- Fond du Lac. Are you enjoying all the snow?!

Post # 5
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I know it can be so overwhelming. First of all get a notebook, if you don’t already have one. Make lists.

Did you know the average bride spends 15-20 hours per week planning her own wedding?

I would say get a planner, but if it isn’t in your budget, get a good maid of honor!!

Just pick one vendor to focus on at a time and don’t worry about the others until the one you are working on is booked.

Prioritize, involve your groom, and make time for yourself too. If you can’t afford a massage, get a pedicure! Just something to take your mind off things. It will be a full time job and then the day after your wedding it will all be over.

 

Best wishes!!

Post # 6
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1110 posts
Bumble bee

Holy crap yes.  

I don’t even want to start, becauseI start to start, and then realize that I don’t expect any of my family to show up other than my brother, and that’s because we’ll have picked him up, and then I get frustrated, and then I don’t want to deal with it.  We haven’t even chosen a date, Fiance chooses sooner, I think he’s crazy and choose later (him: 6-12 mos, no longer than 18; me: 12-18 mos, possibly 24)

FI’s mom wants to throw us an engagement party, but since I don’t expect anyone to show up…I feel like she feels like I’m being difficult. 🙁

I’m torn between telling Fiance “let’s hit the courthouse” and just moving forward and damning the torpedoes.  

Post # 7
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290 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Great Suggestions… Also, I have found myself drinking wine more since wedding planning began… a glass of wine to help you relax definitely helps 🙂

Post # 8
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2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Uh yea.

We’ve been engaged since ’07, and my partner hasn’t shown any interest in anything what-so-ever until now that we are >6months away from the date he picked forever ago.(he wouldn’t even give me a yes/no on venues until now, which is ridiculous on its own)

It’s funny that he thinks everything will be a breeze, but I am like “uh, yea, don’t mind me while I go insane!”

eta:

I’m starting with the venue, then getting an officiant & photographer out of the way. following that is attire & food. then all the little details like invites and decor and whatnot. Last but not least is our music selections & ceremony –but we’re not having a dj, if we were that would probably be up there with the photography.

Post # 9
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463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

i have been engaged for almost a year!! but we are having a 16 month engagement, yay 4 months to go!!!! but i have been planning since day 1 of being engaged and i still have so much to do!! i would strat planning as soon as possible!!

Post # 10
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1253 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I am freaking out right now! We have a strict 120person venue, but our guest list is above and beyond that. I don’t want any kids at our wedding, but my Fiance is putting his foot down and saying he wants all of his neices and nephews there. Food is $20 bucks a plate for the kids mac and cheese and I don’t want to pay that for 10+ kids!! I am seriously ready to cry, I hate guest lists!!! HIs mom and sister are both pissed at me because I even dare mention no kids allowed.

Post # 11
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31 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Bostonsmom I boycotted kids too. My Future Mother-In-Law was so mad at me and I refused to budge, luckily my husband felt the same way. We had a lot of drinkers there and didn’t want the kids in the way. Also I feel it is mean to make them sit at a table all night.

However, we did let them come to the ceremony and then his sister took them home and came back to party.

 

Post # 12
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5891 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2012

STOP.  go grab yourself something something sugary.  then come back.  we will help.

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