Post # 1
My wedding is 2 1/2 months away. I have a ton left to do and pay for. Lately i’ve been feeling SO anxious. I deal with anxiety on a daily basis, but whenever i think of the wedding or look at a calendar i kinda freak out. TBH i LOVE my Fiance. We’ve been together for 5 years and he’s my best friend. I’m so excited to marry him and i dont have any doubts about him but i also feel a little scared. I know it is a big step in life, so that may be it. My parents got divorced when i was in the 5th grade. idk, maybe i’m scared of becoming like them….scratch that i know I’m scared of that. I’m scared of failling. I had a hard time accepting that i deserved to be loved (because of the divorce, mental and physical abuse, depression ect.) but Fiance has always been supportive and patient. The anxious feelings i’ve been getting are so overwhelming. Its almost like butterflies in my stomach but i also feel panicked. Is anyone else experiencing this, or has in the past? i could use some advice. thanks!
Post # 2
You know I dont believe anybody went to the altar thinking “oh well I can always get divorced’ so i don’t mean to be flippant when I say even if marriage doesn’t last one’s whole life, it doesn’t mean you have failed.
My first marriage didn’t last and I was heartbroken at the time, but it was emphatically not a failure ,as nothing is really wasted time I think, where love is involved. Nothing guarantees perfection of course, and committing to any relationship is an act of of faith .
Your parents marriage produced you, so there’s a success right there!
Post # 3
I think feeling anxious about this can be a positive. It says that this means a lot to you, and you really WANT it to work, and thats important in a relationship. Try not to get too overwelmed – your relationship is not your parents. The troubles in their marriage are not something that you have to inherit. And as Elderbee says, a relationship not working out doesnt mean you have failed.
Post # 4
thank you for you words of incouragement!
that makes sense. i know it means alot, the pressure is just overwhelming.